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OK Sis, I get the feeling there is alot more to the context of this than I know, so it's up to you to decide what to do. Obviously, I feel strongly about this subject on account of how it has messed up my ex-wife's life. Perhaps I'm trying to fight her battle through you.<P>Take care, and good luck.

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Still nothing. I keep sporadically sending upbeat and nonthreatening messages asking to help her and for her to help me. Silence.

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Well, I have no doubt that you can understand why I'm tempted to rock the boat a bit in <I>my</I> situation. That kind of silence makes the infamous Chinese water torture seem benign...<BR>

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Writing to her what I have been writing is strangely making me more empathetic to her situation. I don't have as much <I>anger</I> because I am in fact <I>doing something</I>, whether it is immediately effective or not.<P>I am pushing again. And she must know that the pressure will only increase, and be increasingly uncomfortable, whether I contact her other relatives who might have some sympathy to my position, or return to the legal process in order to get the settlement agreement's terms carried out. So I am <I>not</I> fearful, or despondent, or frozen anymore. <P>And she is. I know how that is. I've been there. I hope it doesn't persist for her. I'm not engaged in this to give her more pain. I'm in it to set us both free.

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Yeah, I have that same experience with writing to my wife: that it increases my empathy for her.<P>Of course, then I start missing her all the more... [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]<BR>

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