Why would someone want to "let go" of something that is right? <P>I think GnomedePlume has hit the nail on the head with his quote about unconditional love.

EGADS!!...now you guys have put me in a horrible quandry!! <P>I read what all has been posted on this thread and it gives me a ton to think about...<P>I do know that me and God got ok with the decisions I have made this last year regarding my failed marriage. He has walked me thus far and I know he will walk through more with me...I haven't learned what his will will be for me in the future but I do know the STBX has chosen to live by her will...<P>Somedays I tire of thinking about all this crap...I have had terrible insomnia for the past 10 days because I think too much on this...<P>I need a frikken break!!!<P>Bill

sotired,<P>I know it doesn't take two people to get an annullment. My first H got one and I didn't even know until he told me and he was remarried. In that case, he was absolutely correct in getting one. We did not say vows, he cheated on me the day after the wedding (and many,many times afterward), and he was an admitted sex addict. I'm sure it was a pretty cut and dry procedure. <P>I considered having our marriage annulled without my ex's permission, but decided against it. I was married in my heart and probably always will be. For me to pursue the annullment would be a betrayal of my own feelings and principles. Even if I did get an annullment, it wouldn't change the fact that I meant what I said when I told him "till death do us part".<P>For him to pursue an annullment would be following through with his original statement, which is why I felt he should do it and not me. However, he won't have any moral crisis saying his vows over and over again, so he doesn't see much point in getting an annullment.