I needed to share what happened with me last night - I am not sure what it means, if anything. In the last couple days, I have made sure that my wife (separated) knows that I do still love her, and I miss her - and if everything could be the ideal - her and I together, happy forever!!<P>So, we set up last night to spend some time together to talk - just us - no kids. We went out for a late supper at a fairly quiet spot. Had a good time - no arguements, we did talk about a lot of stuff that has happened over the last four years (her affair, leaving me 3 times, etc). I told her what I felt for her. She came home with me and we spent the night together and she went to work this AM - it felt good. I hate to get too optimisitc, because I wonder if I am just fooling myself. Are we just two lonely people that spent some time together because we are comfortable together? I don't know - I am kind of confused - maybe I am making a bigger deal of this than I need to be!!

Hope for the best. Expect the worst. For now.<BR><p>[This message has been edited by GnomeDePlume (edited February 02, 2001).]

I would say prepare for her to be weird...guilty for spending time...guilty for not being the wife you deserve...<P>I hope it is the start down the reconciliation path...but if she has left before...many times...I would be prepared that it may have been a one time thing and it may be rough for the next few days/weeks because of it.<BR>My fingers are crossed for you though....

Separation sex happens a lot (read the posts) - it usually does nothing but make the dumpee feel worse in the long run - it has more to do with guilt and habit on the dumper's side than effort at reconciliation.<P>Sorry to be pessimistic...but dumpers/ws are really good at using people to make themselves feel better for the moment...without thinking about longterm consequences.<P>Guard your heart and your hopes.<P>Lisa