Well, my W and I have been married now for almost 4 years. We meet in college during the summer and dated 4 years before marrying. Right after we were married we got pregnant and now have a beautiful, wonderful 3 year old daughter. That is the quick background, now the bad stuff...<P>We have been plagued with "bad luck" and problems. We have been on a roller coaster ride for the longest time. We have our good/happy times and then we are fighting/mad. I am the first to admit that I am not responsible and have made bad choices.<P>We have had debt problems, car wrecks, depression (mother died, work slacked, etc), health problems, etc Just when I think I can "change or improve myself", something bad happens and I regress. My W has had it because I cannot change.<P>I have done the "save the marriage debate" with her numerous times. It is getting to the point where the BIG D seems like a good thing.<P>I have babbled... what do I do now... I love her and she "loves" me... <P>Thanks<BR>Sean

Burger King's motto is "The Harder You Work, the Luckier You Get!"<P>Nothing impresses like results. <P>But if you've had all this stuff going on, plus her harping on you, it may be that you have had one or more depressive episodes (the <I>real</I> clinical kind you're supposed to get treatment for), and perhaps are even in one now. Women sense that the way dogs smell fear--and respond in just about the same way.<P>Go to a site on the web where there is a depression self-test/inventory. Find out if there is anything going on with you. If there is, <I>Do Not Pass GO!</I>--head straight for the doctor. <P>Who thinks the BIG D is a good thing? Her or you? No matter. It isn't. But if it's her, then your begging and pleading won't work.<P>I can think of just about a million things to try, but one good one might be phone counseling with the Harleys. Or find someone local. Or do a weekend marital workshop. Or a "controlled separation". Or Debtors' Anonymous. Or ... or ...<P>