She called a few minutes ago to tell me she wants to proceed with the divorce!!<P>I expected as much...Like I stated he neither has the guts to try nor the honesty to tell me her relationship with LRB is the reason.<P>She stated that there were too many things to work through ie..the 6 months to 1 year prior to her affair.<P>She told that I am a great man and she loves me as a friend ect...ad nausiam...<P>So...Come 12Feb I shall be divorced...<P>I think I will continue plan-a for my daughters sake. I think this to be the most spiritual avenue, even though my resentment is soaring right now...<P>Someday she will get over her cranial rectitis and be the decent person I knew...<P>I can now rest assured I did everything in my power to reconcile...<P>Thanks All for your ongoing support and encouragement!<P>Love Yas,<P>Bill

WilliamJ,<P>"I can now rest assured I did everything in my power to reconcile..."<P>.....having known you've done so will bring you comfort in your future. Although I am very sorry to read your news.<P>Ragamuffin<BR>

I'm sorry Bill. From reading your recent posts, I think you have done all that is possible in your situation. I was hoping that she was finally realizing what she was giving up.<P>I hate what you are going through right now. If possible, try to forget about her and focus on yourself right now and how far you have come along.<P>Take care,<P>Jen<BR>

Hey Buddy!<P>You know it is a sad thing that it is happening,but you will be able to sleep at night knowing that you did all that you could.<P>You are one of the "Good guys". <P>I wish you all the best! <BR>You will find happiness again.<P>Keep hanging in there.<P>Gina <P><P>------------------<BR>"If we deny love that is given to us,if we refuse to give love because we fear pain or loss,then our lives will be empty,our loss greater!"-----Anonymous----

Bill,<P>All I'm gonna say is...Robin's loss will be someone else's gain!! <P><BR>Love ya,<BR>Mitzi

Bill...<P>You fought the good fight...<BR>...and you might not see it yet...<BR>...but inmore than just the big picture...<BR>...you're a winner!<P>35 days after you...<BR>...I too will be divorced...<P>...we'll make it!<P> <P>Jim

Good Heavens, G!<P>I don't know what to say--except that you have a friend, many friends in fact, that do love you and care about you and that you should know you're a wonderful man. May God bless and comfort you.<P>Marie

I'm right there behind you, Bill. Feb 15th is the big day for me. Sorry to hear it turned out this way for you, but someday you'll find someone more deserving of your attentions. Hang in there!

I'm so sorry to hear the news Bill. <P>Even if your marriage didn't survive, she'll remember the loving way that you let her go. Over the years, it might come back to haunt her. You'd be surprised. <P>You have alot to be proud of.

Ragamuffin,<BR>It already bring me some peace. That is the beauty of this website. It showed me a good way to let go.<P>Jen,<BR>I can't forget, but I am focussed on building my new life. Thanks <P>Gina,<BR>Yes I do sleep soundly at night!! I have the strength of ten men because I know in my heart I am pure yeah right!! LOL<P>Mitzi,<BR>Thanks I hope you're right!! <P>Jim,<BR>We have already made it...<BR>You are a pillar of strength to me...<BR>A shinning example of goodness...<BR>Thanks for all you do...<P>Mon Cher Marie,<BR>I am grateful for the friends I have made here. It has kept me sane on many a day!!<P>Cjack,<BR>I'm hanging in buddy...you do the same...<P>TheStudent,<BR>She does know that I have remained loving and careing about this whole thing and she has seen how I have risen above it all. I believe it haunts her everyday and she wrestles with her lack of courage in the face of adversity. She is still in much denial about why she can't recommit. In the end she loses and she knows it.<P>Love you guys,<P>Bill

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by WilliamJ:<BR><B>I believe it haunts her everyday and she wrestles with her lack of courage in the face of adversity. She is still in much denial about why she can't recommit. In the end she loses and she knows it.</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>How much of her fear, do you suppose, is actually lack of courage in the face of <I>felicity</I> rather than adversity? To be reminded of what you have lost brings back the pain; and if you fear that you will only lose it again if it is restored to you... well, who wants to go through that?<P>Thus do we run from happiness, and love...<BR>

Dude.<P>...not sure whether to be happy for you or sad. Anyway, you're in my thoughts and prayers. <P>Deut

Bill,<BR>It's a good feeling to walk away knowing you've done your best and tried every avenue possible. That's the only good feeling though, right? The last time she stbxw and I went out, I went to her house, told her parent's in private that I would never give up until she told me flat out to do so, and then took her for a drive. We talked alot, then she told me to move on, it was over, stop trying. Not the words I wanted to hear.<BR>I told her I could not unless I knew I had tried everything. She said, "You have, what more can you do if only one of us is trying".<BR>I replied, "It is done." I moved on that night and have not looked back. It hurts everyday, but I will survive, as you will. Have met a beautiful woman, inside and out, and for the first time in 9 years, I really know how my companion feels about me. Even though I miss my W, I don't miss the wondering. I don't miss the lies and deception.<BR>Take care of yourself, Bill, and good luck with your new life. July, 22, we file.<BR>LHC2

{{{{{{{{{{{{Bill}}}}}}}}}}}}<P>Eleven days after yours is final will be the 1 year anniversary of mine... It does get easier, and like you, I know I did all I could.<P>Even though you know it's going to happen, be ready... the day it actually becomes final it will hit you all over again. Don't mean to depress you, but the final finality of it usually will hit pretty hard. By the time mine was final I wanted it, I was tired of beating my head agianst the wall, but it still hit me really hard. <P>Give that precious little angel a big hug and take care of you both...<P>Love, Thoughts & Prayers<BR>B

Bill,<P>My prayers go out to you guy! Stay your course - you have come so far with such dignity, finish it with the same. Know that you did all you could - and that is something comendable! I am both sorry and happy for you ! <P>Chin up - God Bless,<BR>Mike<P>------------------<BR>God always waits for the right time to do the right thing in the right way.

Bill,<P>Sorry to hear things didn't work out. But you did "fight the good fight!" <P>And along the way, you served and helped many other people, myself included.<P>All my best wishes and prayers my friend.<P>Bob

Bill,<P>I'm so sorry. No one can say that you didn't try, or give the most that you could to reconcile.<P>May God bless you and keep you...