Hi folks. I have a male friend who needs advice. <P> His wife left him last Christmas, and took their 4 kids with her. She is not giving him straight answers... just making vague statements about his drinking and how she could not handle it. He stated that he has never struck her... but he did make abusive statements to her and visa/versa.<P> He does not want a divorce. He is concerned about protecting his rights where the kids are concerned. Example: He calls and asks to take the kids, and she tells him that they are at her parents for the night. <P> He is also concerned about the kids being exposed to "unsavory" characters. His wife's niece has been staying over-night at her house, with a boyfriend. My friend is extemely uncomfortable with this. He is afraid to say anything to the girl's parents, because he doesn't want to commit a LB. He is afraid his wife would get angry with him.<P> He also stated that before she left, his wife was a tee-totaler. No drinking at all. Now, he finds various sorts of liquor at her apartment... he is wondering if his wife is experiencing a sort of MLC?<P> Can anyone direct me to a helpful site or page on this site to copy for him? He doesn't have a puter and limited resources, so here I am. BTW, I have already copied and given him the LB and EN questionnares. He was very appreciative and his wife is agreeable to doing them. <P> Any advice or sites are welcome.<P> Thanks in advance! <BR>~~Mynabird

For what it's worth...<BR>...copy/print the links from the <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000553.html" TARGET=_blank>General Welcome for All New Builders(Newbies)</A>.<P>The books would be of greatest value...<P> <P>Jim

Here's an item on verbal abuse, maybe she's been doing it to him too: <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum34/HTML/002097.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum34/HTML/002097.html</A>