Where can i get into programs like PAIRS or Retrouvaille?<P>Been divorced for 1 1/2 month, separated for about 20 months. Still in love with X and i believe he is still in love with me. Problem is we can't live together without fighting and i cant trust him (after his A, which he regrets and did apologize). He is currently getting treatment for his alcohol problem and his depression problem. He probably has too much on his plate to work on us, but i'd like to get help for myself and maybe invite him along later. We had alot of controlling issues in the past and although we both miss each other and want to be together again, i guess we both feel it won't work and neither want to risk hurting ourselves any further. he asked me to be his best friend? what do you think that means? i'm so confused these days.....<BR>He is currently in hospital for his depression and i took the kids to see him but i stayed downstair, partly because i didn't want to upset him and partly because i don't know if he wanted to see me. i feel so weak i can't even make simple decisions like that.

<A HREF="http://www.pairs.com" TARGET=_blank>www.pairs.com</A> <A HREF="http://www.retrouvaille.org" TARGET=_blank>www.retrouvaille.org</A> <P>And get some individual help for yourself too. Good luck