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After catching up at where we are (my H saw him for about a year, now were in joint counseling) the counslor suggested maybe our personalities and how we were raised is too different, not that we can't do it only that it will be harder than most, also because of my H A also to overcome.<BR>We both seemed to understand the couslor and my H even got called a workacholic by the counslor and agreed. <BR>Then we get home and while making dinner we begin talking about the session. Then my H does a somewhat of a change and is fustrated that he is the "wrong" one and maybe I should be the one to change.<BR>After more talking and crying my H gets it again, but this is so common of our patteren, try to work on something, H feels attacked, we talk more, I cry, he feels better.<BR>Any way to "work together" less painful?
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I think you need to be careful here. You need to concentrate on how to work together instead on how to change. I don't know if you can change your personality.<P>My x's and mine differences were brought out by our various counselors and my x decided to use this as a reason to get out.<P>She said we had too many differences and that since neither one of us could change our personalities, it was worth ending the marriage. Meanwhile, we had been married for 15 yrs and have 2 kids, and never really had any problems.<P>Work on communication skills!<P>God Bless<P>Bob
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