There have been numerous posts on these boards where BS's say they were never told from the WS about a problem. I am one of those. The answer given from many is that we should have seen the problem. Sometimes I think many of us would need a decoder ring in order to cull the seriousness of the problem.<P>My wayward wife and I recently went through a custody evaluation involving extensive psychological testing. The results of her's showed someone who "was defensive in nature, has a high level of unrealistic personal virtue, manages conflict through denial, reflects self-centered and self-indulgent behavior, cloaks defensiveness around psychological difficulties, fearful of expressing negative emotion and loss of control, hyperalertness to the needs of others to avoid introspection through accomodation, tendency towards perfectionism," and the one I love the most, "habitual evasiveness and discomfort with intimate issues."<P>Well blow me down. Does anyone have a used decoder ring for sale?<P>Jay

and what did your's say?

It said that I "display an attitiude of self control, difficulty expressing anger directly, seek reassurance and support, high level of self assurance, ties to address difficulties in socialization, tendency to act in a self-dramatizing manner, tendency to enhance and indulge myself."