Hi, hopeful.<p>I had to post. I have the EXACT same problem.<p>When I touch myself, I can come to orgasm, but I HAVE NEVER been able to orgasm from another person's stimulation alone. My boyfriend is constantly trying to get me to orgasm - but I can't do it. I have to be on my stomach to achieve an orgasm.<p>I don't even think I've come close with him. He's been trying to do it for over 2 years now. I don't worry about him going out and wanting someone else though. That's definitely not a reason! Don't be silly!<p>I do want to orgasm though. I think it would make him have greater esteem. But I am very honest with him, and he knows that it is not him, but me. <p>I reassure him that I really enjoy it and hope that one day "we'll" figure "me" out. This makes him feel better. (I want him to think it's MY fault.)<p>I honestly don't know if I ever will orgasm though. <p>Just curious: does it feel like you're going to pee when he gives you oral for a long time? My bf read somewhere (he's been trying to learn about how to make me orgasm) that if the woman feels like she is going to pee, she is actually going to orgasm. I don't get it though, because when I touch myself, it doesn't feel like that.<p>Well, let me know, okay?

skarlie,<p>No I cant say that it feels like I have to pee except when actually do and he is stimulating me with his fingers. I dont think I would mistake an orgasm for having to pee, but then perhaps it's more to it than that in the book he read. Only on your stomach? Thats interesting. Seems like we all have our positions where it is easier. There are some good books out there on female orgasm. Dont give up.

Hopeful, sorry for not being clearer on my reply to you. What I was trying to state was that I was unable to get my wife to reach orgasm by me alone....we can get there with the help of toys, but that's it. And like I stated, even that is a major deal. Another point that seems to need clearifying is the "oral sex" issue....she will not give me oral, she did when we dated and maybe about a total of 6 times in the 7 yrs we were married. I'm the one who gives her oral. AS far as anal, that's something that has never even been mentioned between the 2 of us. That's why I was asking. She has never had an orgasm with any guy she's been with (I'm her 4th), like I said, she's had them with me but only with the help of a toy. The issues of our marriage being on the rocks doesn't really pertain to this issue because as I stated, we haven't had sex since. Anyways, when she was in the mood to do things, we had a ball trying, granted it wasn't always the main goal exept for a few times when she stated she wanted to find out what it was like and was willing to try almost anything to get there, that's when the toys were first used....we never had intercourse that night, it was just me using the toys on her, which in fact I really enjoyed doing. To be honest with you though, the chances of me even visiting that situation again with her is pretty well null right now, too much damage has been done by her and I'm moving on. So I can only hope my next partner is easier to please and for the most part is actually in love with me for me and not my wallet.<br>I hope that clearifies my first post to ya.

yes, it clears it up and I wish you all the happiness in your next relationship. Remember it is not a man's fault that a woman cant have an orgasm...but kindness and willingness to try different things help. It seems like you were more than willing. Good luck.