I haven't been on much lately. Ramping up for my next Op and lots of travel has kept me pretty busy.<P>I wanted to thank all of the people on here who gave their advice, some of it hurt, but almost all of it helped. I've accepted that this is what my wife wants, and I've let her go. If she were to ever change her mind, of course I would welcome the opportunity to save our family, but I have to face reality.<P>I think now is the time for me to move on and start looking to the future, and my new life alone. I never imagined 6 months ago that the pain would ever get better, but it has. It's still there sometimes, but I've finally realized that the hurting means there is healing.<P>So, I think I'm going to say goodbye, at least for awhile. I'll check back from time to time & see how everyone is doing, but it's time for me to move on.<P>Thanks for everything.<P>Take care & God bless...<P>------------------<BR>nick<P>it's only time that heals the pain <BR>and makes the sun come out again

(((((NICK)))))<P>Don't stay totally absent - be sure to let us know how you are from time to time.<P>I know how you feel - it took me a long time to get to that point - I had been married almost 17 years, and the pain of losing the person I loved most in the world was shattering. There were a few times when I found myself looking over the edge...<P>But, we do heal and move on - some quicker and some slower. A friend told me that you cannot go around this pain - that you must go through it, and that while it may have come to visit, it will not stay forever. This is by far the most painful thing that I have had to endure. This thing called divorce seems to be an epidemic that is only becoming all the more frequent. It is so sad to see how divorce causes so much pain, and how the scars will always be there, no matter how complete the healing is. <P>Take care of yourself - it does get better, but the road is sometimes long and fraught with danger. Keep believing in yourself - you are stronger than you know! Even though I wish my H would not have thrown me and our marriage away, realizing what kind of person he now is, and how troubled and how in denial he is, I know that I am probably better off in the long run. This is something that I never thought I would say!<P>Stay strong and keep moving forward!!<P>May God Bless you - Lady M<p>[This message has been edited by Lady M (edited February 21, 2001).]

Nick,<P>I'm not around here much anymore either... I stop by from time to time to check things out and to see who is still around. I guess I just don't ever say "goodbye" because it would be like leaving my family... I'll always check in from time to time, and stay in touch with those who are closest to me. <P>You know how to find me.... and more important, I know how to find YOU! Keep in touch.... Oh, and this in no way excuses you from coming down to the beach in June!!!! <P>{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Nick}}}}}}}}}}}}}}<BR>Here's to moving on! It does get easier.... and we're here for the good times and the bad! <P>SMOOCHES!!!<BR>B

Best wishes to you nick, you deserve it.<P>Give us an update from time to time.<P>Bill<P>------------------<BR><P>May the roads rise to meet you,<BR>May the winds always be at your back,<BR>May the sun shine warm upon your face,<BR>The rains fall soft upon your fields,<BR>And until we meet again,<BR>May god hold you<BR>In the hollow of his hand.

Nick,<P>I can completely understand the need to leave. Of course, I could only stay away for a month though! LOL I'm not around as much as before. Instead of hanging out here all day long, I now just check in a couple of times a day. <P>Best of luck to you! You have my email addy...keep in touch!<P>(((((Nick)))))<P>Mitzi

Nick,<P>I'm at about the same place as you in all of this and I understand completely.<P>Do try to keep in touch.<P>Rock Chalk Jayhawk!!!!

Nick, buddy, may the force be with you!<P>just got off a star wars ride here in disney.<P>I am with you also, in fact,<BR>i am going to ask her what's the hold up<BR>with the paperwork when i get back.<P>so its their loss as far as i'm concerned at this point in time.<P>good luck.<P>tom<P>

(((((Nick))))),<P>I will miss reading your posts. Keep us updated on how you are doing.<P>With all you have learned here and the person you are now because of this hurtful experience, I'm certain you have grown in spite of the pain. <P>Take good care of yourself, you are a very special person.<P>Ragamuffin

((((((((((((Nick))))))))))<P>I grieve at the thought of you leaving us. You've shared so much good stuff with us and growns so far. I shall miss you terribly.<P>But I know growth brings changes and if you need to leave us, then we must cope. <P>You have my address. Let me know how you're doing. I've endured the whole divorce deal and lived. If you need words of encouragement, support, advice, friendship, let me know. I'm on your side.<P>XOXOXOXO-<BR>-Jane-Elise<BR>

I haven't been around much myself lately, and I don't really recognize too many around here either. But I have read many of your posts. Good luck. I am in the same place as you.

Nick,<P>I've been trying to think what to say about your leaving. Mostly, I'll miss you. You have come so far, and I am so proud of you. I completely understand that you will be moving on to your own, new life. But I hope you'll pop your head in here now and then. You added so much to the forum, and we will be diminished without you. <P>You know where to find me. I will always be your true and loyal friend, and you know if you ever need an encouraging word, a joke, a pat on the back, someone to celebrate with or a cyberhug, I'm your chick!<P>{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Nick}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}<P><BR>CJ<P>------------------<BR>Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.

Godspeed, buddy. You fought the good fight.

Nick- <BR> Thank you for all of your words of kindness and advice in "the early days". You will never know how much your words helped. You are/were an asset to this forum, and will be missed greatly. Take care and keep in touch. <P>arm6868@yahoo.com

{{{Nick}}}<P>You'll be missed if you leave completely. Check in once in a while and let us know how you are doing. I, too, haven't been on here as much, life keeps getting in the way and I also learned that the girls and I are better off without H around and Friday expedited the paperwork myself. Best of luck to you with your future! Thanks for all your help,<P>Lori <BR>

c00ker,<P>you'll be missed..thanks for your support<BR>but I understand the need to leave and move forward..I haven't been posting as much either..been busy with work and just living life..<P>Good luck and just know that from everything you've learned here you'll be better prepared for your next relationship..and that will be one VERY LUCKY LADY!!!!<P>In Christ,<P>

(((((((((((NICK)))))))))))))))<P>When I read the title of the topic, I thought it was about you having a new GF of your own! I am sorry to see that you'll be leaving. I can still remember some of your first posts!<P>I have been taking a break myself though. Mostly because I can't figure out if I'm completely over my ex or not. I wish I could say for sure. I know the marriage and relationship are over, I just don't know if the reality of it has totally sunk in at times.<P>Don't be a stranger, I know a lot of people will miss you around here ! <P>Hugs, Dana<BR>

Hi c00ker,<P>I also understand, have gone AWOL a few times myself.<P>But please check in from time to time, to let us know how you are and keep us posted.<P>I will miss you - your words of wisdom have calmed me down on many an occasion. Thank you for being there for me. I appreciate it.<P>take care of you, and I wish only the very best for you<P>Jo