Oh faithful one!!!<BR>Right before I read the new posts, I told myself to stop with the negative thoughts. I even laughed to myself because this particular chant kept running through my head: I hate him, I hate him, I hate him, I hate him.............. <P>I reached for a CD to play and pulled out Andrea Bocelli------:[ :[<BR>Guess who bought tickets to his "one day" only concert in Vegas---Mr. Mean & of course guess who he is taking!!!!! I hate him, I hate him, I hate him...<P>I really don't. But does he ever make me angry!!!!!<BR>Other than that, I am having a pretty good day <BR>Thanks for asking!!!!!<P>

We've all been there. I asked my H to go bowling as a recreational activity for us-he left before we went and know he takes OW...I know where I would like to stick a bowling ball ....

HA HA! I WIN! <P>In 15 years of being together and 12 years being married, my H took me on one vacation: our honeymoon to Las Vegas. We owned our own business, so naturally, it would fall apart without us. We did travel around a lot, on long 3-day weekends going to our out-of-state sites to do work, but never a "put work down and just enjoy the view" vacation.<P>Sure enough, this December he took the OW on a two week vacation to Utah. Now that WE worked for years and years and he had some money from the business, and I'm sure he used business money to take his little honey on the trip I never got! <P>Yup, in case you didn't notice, that still is a bit of a sore spot for me. I'm thinking of taking myself to Hawaii or Alaska on his money (smiling devilishly). Bad CJ!<P><BR>CJ <P>------------------<BR>Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.

Breakups are rife with irony. In one of her little inspections, my XW was surprised to find a newly-purchased tux hanging in my closet. She <I>liked</I> the sorts of events where <I>black tie</I> was at least "optional", but I never got around to buying one when I was with her. You live and you learn ... to not make the same mistake of frustrating a significant other's wishes to see you dressed <I>way up</I> at an event that calls for it.

Hi REJECTED, <P> Thats the spirit you can love him anyway. Don't let anyone tell you you can't. My son in law will not even let his mom say one bad word against my D. I love my H anyway. Guess what they Love us ,too. Yours seems to care with his comments. Remember he is in La La land.<P> PS: Why did you leave your home honey?<P>------------------<BR>Deb

It is hard to live with someone who really doesn't want you there and I don't think it's healthy when the husband is talking on the phone with the OW all hours of the night.<BR>He wouldn't leave so I was basically forced.<BR>

It hurts,<P> Mine did that too. I did not leave and neither did he. Why should I leave just to accomadate them??? It must make you very angry having OW in your home. They have no shame.<P> Have you checked out recovery forum? I started a post for the newcomers, on stupid things our Ws say to us. it helped me when I was new.<P> lots of hugs and prayers,<P>------------------<BR>Deb

IM BACKKKKK,<P> One very important thing I did not know when my H had his A under my nose also. I did not find this wonderful place until way after his A was over.<P> I took all those things to HEART . When you listen with your head they tell you 2 things. Your H statement of your the only one who listened take to heart. The others is garbage throw away for your own good. My heart is filled with nasty hurtful untrue remarks and they have to be purged out. They last longer than the rest of the whole ordeal.<P>------------------<BR>Deb

<P>and if your really bored this weekend maybe you could move back home?? It does have your name on it doesn't it???<P>------------------<BR>Deb

and if you decide to do that wash all her cooties out!!!<P> Did you get your "COOTIE SHOT"<P> I"M from the 60's<P>------------------<BR>Deb