I'm on plan D. <P>My stbx betrayer spouse is falling apart. She started threatening suicide again today. I believed her this time. I called the preschool (she went to pickup daughter) and the police. My daughter was still at the preschool when I got there, 10 minutes after my stbx. My stbx went home. <P>I need to call my attorney tommorrow. Maybe she can shed some light on this or offer me some direction.<P>Anyone else have any similar experience?

"She started threatening suicide again today. I believed her this time." I don't know exactly how many times "she has threaten suicide" but if in fact she is the one who betrayed your trust... you should do anything in your power to keep this woman away from your child... Too many cases of crazy people who after they do wrong want to hurt themselves and their children... sorry! but watch out.

I don't think your attorney is the best person to advise you on this. It sounds like your wife is very depressed. There is a very good chance her depression is linked with her affair as well. She needs help. <P>If you are divorcing her, then it is very likely she will not allow you to help her and she will not trust you. She might even think you will use this against her. If you truly care about her as a human being, keep your attorney out of it. It is more likely that your attorney will try to find opportunities for you to leverage this to your advantage. If you do that, you would be a bottom feeder in my book. On the other hand, if you are looking for any available opportunity to get custody of your daughter, here's your big chance.<P>There are lots of suicide intervention hotlines and counselors who can help you and your wife. Talk to them first.<P>Trust me. Talk to experts who know something about suicide. You do need to take care of your daughter. Your wife is obviously overwhelmed. Don't listen to people who urge you to capitalize on your wife's anguish. It is vindictive and hateful. If you ever claimed to have loved your wife, then you won't stomp on her when she's down. Get her the help she needs (if she'll accept it) and take care of your daughter.<p>[This message has been edited by TheStudent (edited February 26, 2001).]

blackeyes,<P>Not trust her with my daughter. I don't think she would ever hurt our daughter, but I'm going to check with my attorney on what to do to protect my daughter.<P>TheStudent,<P>I'm not looking to do her in in any way shape or form. I was truly worried about her. I went to her apartment complex office. The manager went to check on her. The manager said that she couldn't show me where she lives, but my daughter could. I still didn't confront my wife. I thought it would only be bad.

BTW,<P>She is the one that filed.<P>I did counterfile. My attorney suggested it. In case she doesn't show before the judge, I can still get a divorce.<P>I did everything I could to save our marriage. She didn't.

Maybe you can find a counselor or a suicide intervention service who can provide emergency services.<P>The reason why I know about this is because I attempted suicide after my first husband divorced me. I took a massive dose of sleeping pills and drank about a half liter of vodka. For some amazing reason, it didn't work and I woke up about 24 hrs. later. (I didn't cheat on him)<P>I seriously considered it after my second divorce. Had the gun loaded and everything (the pills didn't work the first time), but my neighbor came by before I did it. After I told him what I was considering he urged me to call the counseling service at the school I attend, who took me immediately. Within 10 minutes. My friend took me to their office. <P>My ex told me to go ahead and kill myself...just don't do it in his apartment. <P>There are lots of very good resources out there, and good medication for depression (so I've been told). Regardless of whether or not you two divorce, it does sound like she needs help.