I wonder when it is time to act and not be the nice one or the forgiver all the time. I have tried to be the most understanding I think anyone can be in a situation with out being a total door mat. My husband injured his shoulder christmas eve. It is believed to be a streched muscle. (For lack of a better discription) We have been surving on workmens comp as a result. Now I find out from a doctors notice he got in the mail that he has been telling me he is fine and wants to get back to work, but tells the doctor he is still having pain. This is despite the fact that he is working out at home...playing soft ball and so on. He has made this thing out to be the companies fault for dragging its feet in getting him back to work. My husband was born with a silver spoon in his mouth were I came from a hardworking poor middle class home. I am willing to work and hard but all our marrage he has wanted to live large but not work to have it. This will be the fourth MAJOR lie in our marriage of 12 years. He has never cheated on me. But he has lied on three occasions that I feel most women would have divorced him over. We have two children...I am running a rescue which is holding it's own but can not yet aford to pay me a salary. I am confused, scared. When is enough-enough.