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My prayers are with you.... Trying to Move On. You have emphatically and passionately and effectively articulated yourself in this letter to the OW (who is unbelievably in this site). My the God of comfort bring you inner peace - that's what I'm praying for you right now as we speak. May I recommend a short book that may help you as you seek your inner peace? It's written by Henri Nouwen and it's called "The Inner Voice of Love: A journey through anguish to freedom". This is what God has for you - freedom, grace and His love. <P>To your daughters... may they be separated as much as possible from the pain of this - the betrayal of their father. Be a lighthouse to them... yes, the storms hit you and may break your windows at times, but keep your light beaming so that they may see their way to navigate through the very destructive rocks...<P>Bless you and yours... may 2001 be YOUR year - just for you and your peace so that it may spread to those around you one at a time.<P>------------------<BR>Freedom is doing what you like - Happiness is liking what you do.

Private Lies has a good response to the OP it basically say"GO HOME"!! You were once agood person and you do not know what happened to tha person. You want to justify yourself to anyone but there is none in this family who wants to hear you out-one of these days I will send this to OW.... They all need to GO HOME...

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Hi again Trying,<P>good letter to her.<P>All that you said is so true. <P>She will never be anything to him or your children. And the way she's going, she'll be nothing to anyone. Your Husband's family obviously know her as the tramp she is. Not much joy for her there. Her sister in law seems to be getting fed up with her behaviour too. Maybe not too much more joy there either. Her friends and family must be getting mighty sick and tired of her "woe is me" attitude.<P>Do you think she'll wake up? Nope, neither do I.<P>But I'm so proud of YOU, Trying. Because you said she's caused you pain, but she will not destroy you. Yaaaayyyyyy, to you. You've got the strength to see that yes she has done this, but you will be the one to rise about it. And you will be the much better person for all of this. You were already streets ahead of her in the decency stakes, but after this, she's left with NOTHING. A great big fat nothing. No-one will have respect for her, much less like her. And you know what, all her girlfriends will start keeping her away from their husbands, in case she does it to them too!!!!!!!!. She's heading for the biggest fall. No-one will like or trust her. What a way to go through life.<P>Trying, keep on doing what you're doing. You're the better person here. If you can, just try and put her out of your mind. I know, easier said than done.... But she does not deserve one more second of your thought processes... You and your children deserve all of those.<P>big hugs to you<P>Jo