Son's open house is tonight. I got the notice on Monday and honestly forgot (Freudian maybe) to call and tell her about it. So I had son call her this morning. I figured that since she had to bring daughter back at 8 pm, getting here an hour early would not really be a problem.<P>So she calls me at work and requests that I give her more notice. I tell her OK, sorry, it fell through the cracks. Then she proceeds to tell me how she wants to attend this stuff and it hurts her when she can't. Oh, and by the way, I have to work until 8 and daughter will be at least 2 hours late. 10:30 bedtime for a two year old. Good planning.<P>I told her (in my best diplomatic style ) that if she were here, this would not be a problem. That she chose this course of action, and sometimes things will fall through the cracks, and don't tell me how hurt you are until you have to deal with son breaking down once a week because of your course of action. Actually, she didn't hear that last part because she hung up the phone.<P>Does she think she is the only one that has feelings? Any suggestions on alternative methods of handling this are appreciated.<P>Oh, and another thing. She took this demotion at work so that she could control her schedule and spend more time with the kids (she says). She sees daughter 2 days this week and son not at all. What is she doing working on one of these days?

Brian,<BR>Be careful, you are headed down the same path I am on!!!!!<P>I am slowly learning, there is nothing we can do!!!!! We just have to "take" it and some how sort it all out.<P>My x also took a demotion. She works 12 hrs shift 3-4 days/week. She told me it was to spend more time with the kids. But she misses most of there evening things because she is working 7p to 7a. Then she can't take the kids the next day because she wants to sleep mostvof the day so she can't help out at school or if it a weekend, she will sleep half the day away. <P>Why she couldn't get a normal 8 hr job I'll never know and she will never tell me.<P>You can't educate the ws as they take it as a LB and get defensive and then nothing is resolved.