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#685 08/09/99 02:00 PM
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<BR>Okay, I know I can read each and every profile to get the information, but I was just looking for the short and sweet, bottom line on who we are here. I’m just curious about the ages, genders, betrayed or betrayer, and how long you were married when the affair started/was revealed/ended. So, lets just do a quick survey and sound off, okay? <BR>Hey, maybe Doc. H can use this information to help others somehow. <BR>__________________________________<BR>Female<BR>-Age 31<BR>-Betrayer<BR>-Married 8 years<BR>-Married 3 years when H cheated – I found out shortly after it started, it ended immediately.<BR>-Married 5 ½ years when I cheated, H found out 2 years later. Ended 6 months after I told H.<BR>

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O.K.....<BR>Male<BR>39 years<BR>Betrayed<BR>Married 11 years<BR>My soon to be ex-W told me June of '96 that she was in love with a married co-worker, has not changed her mind all this time. We have lived in the same house the whole time also, one very hurt little boy. She wants the divorce I don't.....

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Female<BR>Age 48<BR>Betrayed<BR>married 15 years<BR>H had affair for one yr. <BR>H says very strong emotional bond w/OW; denies sexual relationship w/OW but admits other physical stuff<BR>OW is coworker - 15 yrs younger than me<BR>OW is married<BR>H disclosed affair 5 months ago (after it was over he says) and after he said he wanted a divorce<BR>Not certain it is really over as they still work together<BR>

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Hi.<BR>Female<BR>31 years old.<BR>I am the betrayed.<BR>Married almost 6 years. We have been togther for 13.<BR>Affair started in March 99 and still going on. I found out in June.<BR>OW is married/ getting divorse.<P>------------------<BR>Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experiences of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, vision cleared, ambition inspired and success achieved. Face your deficiencies and acknowledge them, but do not let them master you. The marvelous richness of human experience would lose something of rewarding joy if there were no limitations to overcome. <BR>Viki <p>[This message has been edited by pondvj (edited August 09, 1999).]

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Female<BR>-Age 27<BR>-Betrayer<BR>-Married 2 years<BR>-"Fell in Love" with a married man I work with, went on a business trip and that's when everything came out in the open. I now live 800 miles away from him and am still married. I think about him every day and although I want him I don't know if I could leave my husband for him if that's what it came down to.

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For what it's worth, here's mine--<P>-Male<BR>-Age 37 (mental age 16)<BR>-I'm the unfaithful one<BR>-Married 16 yrs (have 9 yr old son)<BR>-1st affair : married 6 yrs. Told my wife after she asked me why I was acting so weird. But it didn't end immediately.<BR>-2nd affair : married 15 1/2 yrs. Ended when my wife found out (but I'm still in severe withdrawal).<BR>-both affairs were "emotional" affairs.<P>--airheart

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female 35 years<BR>seperated since January 99. <BR>Betrayer.<BR>Was in affair with co-worker MM/3kids 7 years. I told everyone in Dec 98. Including MM wife. I couln't handle it any more. I have 2 kids with husband & 2 kids with MM.<BR>( Don't worry I'm not having anymore).<BR>Working on child support from MM. And working on being friend with Husband.<BR>

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Female<BR>45 years old<BR>Betrayed<BR>Married 25 years<BR>Will be separating 8/20<P>A Little over a year ago started noticing changes in H's personality. I was treated as "second class". He hated me. Soon it came out he was "seeing an old friend". We've been working over a year, but it churns nowhere. Thus, separation.

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Male<BR>Age 27<BR>Betrayer<BR>Married nearly 6 years (seeing each other for nearly 11); fabulous 17 month old son<BR>Married 5 1/2 when I cheated<BR>Ended immediatley after wife found out<p>[This message has been edited by rhooks4 (edited August 09, 1999).]

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Female<BR>-Age 45<BR>Betrayed<BR>Married 19 years, 6 kids<BR>H started disappearing for hours last fall, was inexplicably angry at me. Told me wanted a divorce in Feb, called from work the next evening to say wasn't coming home, he filed in April, immediately after discovery. OW is slightly older than I, divorced with kids.<p>[This message has been edited by Nellie1 (edited August 09, 1999).]

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29yrs. old<BR>Female<BR>Betrayed<BR>Married 1 year, Seperated, H wants divorce since i called cops to get him out of house! VERY HURT!

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- Female<BR>- Age 44<BR>- Betrayed (?)<BR>- Cohabited 2 years, married 13 years<BR>- H had at least overly intense, inappropriate friendship with boss/friend/co-worker (same person) starting Spring 1998 through June 1999 and maybe still, though less so.<BR>- H denied anything inappropriate or sexual.<BR>- OW got him interview for current job. She is single mom, 4 years younger than me. H and I are same age.<BR>- Started "nondisclosure Plan A 3/99 -- seems to be working. H does not go out very often anymore, never mentions OW, loving towards me, marriage seems better than ever.

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Female<BR>43<BR>Married 10 years<BR>Betrayed<BR>Talked to me about being interested in CHILD June 28, began dating her the next day. Left us 8/6.

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Female-45 yrs old<BR>Betrayed<BR>Married 2 years, dated for 8 years<BR>Discovery 2 months ago<P>H is repentant. Trying to work things out<BR>

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age 26 <BR>married 5 yrs (totall) seperated 1 yr<BR>had relatioship with online women never met nothing sexuall. wife cant get over lies i told her says she doesnt love and doesnt think she ever will<P>------------------<BR>Malachi 2: 16 For I hate divorce, says the Lord<P>Cute

#700 08/09/99 03:08 PM
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Female, 47 yrs old<BR><BR>Betrayed<BR><BR>Married 21 yrs this week<BR><BR>H developed a "friendship" with a co worke 17 yrs younger than him last summer. He claims it wasn't physical and also had nothing to do with his feelings of being trapped and wanting out.<BR><BR>He refused to do any serious work on the marriage and we have been seprated since Dec.<BR><BR>He was recently seen going into her apt.

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Age 43<BR>Female<BR>Betrayed although I betrayed him 4 years ago with a 1 month emotional affair<BR>Married 22 years<P>Affair for H started 2 years ago and I found out 6 months later. Having been fighting for my marriage ever since with him moving back and forth 4 times and trying to end it with her at least 10 times and not suceeding. Claims to love and want to spend the rest of his life with me, but sanity and patience are going. Off to Arizona for 1 week today to clear my head.<P>------------------<BR>Lilly<P>

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Female (don't let the name fool you!) ;-)<BR>Age 29<BR>Be-trayed-him<BR>Married for almost 7 years<BR>Rocky marriage, careers got in the way...started an emotional affair with my best guy friend over a year ago, that eventually led to a full blown love affair. Currently working with H to repair.<P>

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Female<BR>36 yrs old<BR>married 14 years<BR>H has been having emotional affair for 18 months. He has now moved out and has been gone for 3 weeks, OW is still in picture but I feel we are making some progress<BR>2 children (8&10)<BR>I love him very much and will continue to fight for our marriage.

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Female<BR>Age:33<BR>Betrayed<BR>Married 12 yrs<P>Husband had a one year affair with one of my best friends. She moved, he then told me. This was 7 wks ago. He still doesn't say that he loves me but everything else is going pretty well. Withdrawal symptoms faiding.<BR>

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