My wife and I are in our second marriage after both of us having been married for over 25 years. We have been at it for 4 years and it has been quite a learning experience. Fortunately we are best of friends which makes communication possible, even if sometimes strained. I moved into her house and immediately faced the question of whether or not I had a say in how much of my "stuff" would be allowed in the door. We had to negotiate my closet space. We are interested in knowing others who have noticed the unique things that happen to remarrieds. Let us know what surprised you and how you felt about it. We'll be happy to share our experiences with you if you like. As an example; We are both Christians but our faiths are pretty far apart, or so I thought. I am Catholic and she is Assembly of God. It took a lot of discussion but our faith is now one of our great bonds. Look forward to your suggestions, examples, criticisms. Thanks for caring.

Dear RSL:<br>The first thing that gave me unending hope in reading your posting was the fact that you & your wife are on one accord with God. <br>My husband & I have just recently married; him being married before & this being my first marriage. <br>Boy was the closet & infusion of belongings a comical issue. Just thinking about it makes me laugh & it's still not over (lol).<br>I moved into his apartment from another COUNTRY so, you can imagine that I brought EVERYTHING of ANY significance (lol).. When I walked in, there was not a plant in sight, the computer was on the dinning room table, there was a homemade bookshelf out of the corner area & NO AMBIANCE WHATSOEVER!.. <br>Needless to say, that same apartment is now a "vision of beauty".. <br>He moved his clothes out of the big closet & gave it to me while grumbling the WHOLE time (lol), I got 2 out of four drawers, three out of five shelves in the bathroom but have since "taken over a fourth" (lol).. You get the picture.. <br>I made a resolution this year to not "horde" so much unnecessary "STUFF" and have already made two trips to the thrift shop. <br>So, the bottom line is that there's hope for us still! :-))<br>joyross@concentric.net

how encourageing you all are...<br>the forums help me too...

Joyross - What a hoot. Great to hear from the distaff side<p>Martin - Glad to know the lurkers benefit too. <p>We really do think that second marriages can be so much fun. Sure like to hear from some more of you. If you would like to stay in touch with us show your email. Thanks<p>rsltexas@swbell<p>[This message has been edited by RSL (edited 02-02-99).]

Please tell your wife that a good "new Years" resolution is to take all items that have not been used within the past year & donate them to charity. If she really wants to be paid for her efforts she could take them to a thrift shop. I've made two trips with a van load of stuff. Mind you, when I got there I tried to remove certain "favorite" items (lol) What can I say? (lololol)...