Mediation is over. All in all, it went fairly well. We had gone to mediation to decide custody and visitation for our three kids. The oldest is mine from a previous marriage, the middle is hers from a relationship before we met, and the youngest is our together. The mediation was really for visitation for the youngest. She knows that I have very limited rights to the middle child (I was there when he was born, and have been his father for the last 8 years). I will get to see him every other weekend, alternating holidays, and part of the summer. Out of all the kids, he is the one that has the most to lose. Our oldest will continue to have a relationship with my STBXW, but she gets to make some of those decisions. She is moving to another town about 45 miles from here, and has decided to put our middle child in school there. She told the mediator that she decided to move because things were getting too nasty in our hometown (and gesturing at me, like it was my fault). The other man lives in the town she is moving to. I wonder what the real reason for moving is? Hmmm<P>As for the youngest, we came to an agreement to split custody into 1-week blocks. This seems to be the best way to handle this. She has been very difficult about visitation, yet she has left the kids with me the whole time that she was out having fun with the OM. Go figure that one out. Anyway, she told the mediator that I have always wanted things done my way, and worked around my work schedule. I can't really argue with her. She was a stay at home mom, and I worked full time. When else were we suppose to make plans?<P>It went well, at least for now. Thank you to all who said a little prayer for me. I think it helped a lot. Now onward towards the D. We will get a copy of our agreement next Wednesday, and she will have everything she needs to file. Looks like I will be single again within the next month or so. Too bad that she has pushed this along so fast.<P>Griz<P>------------------<BR>Sometimes the hardest journeys in life are not the ones you embark on alone, but those that you choose to travel together.
