I have been in a serious relationship for nearly a year (long distance). It hasn't been the easiest relationship, but we have been strong for each other and are the best of friends. We had plans for him to move here and we both wanted to get married. We loved the idea of spending the rest of our lives together. He came to visit me a week ago, we had alot of fun together and he told me he's never been so happy in his life. As always we cried when it came to departure time. Well a few days ago we got into a very heated argument, words flew and he became hysterically emotional. I needed to cool off and think straight, I got off the phone with him. During my 'cooling off' time, he needed someone to talk to, so he went to his ex's. <br>The very next day, he told me he had to end it with me because he wanted to try to work it out with his ex. Now he wants to be best friends. <br>How could someone change so drastically so fast? How could he have the best time of his life and over a few days want to give it up? <br>Go from planning our future together and dreaming of building our family...to hoping we can continue to remain 'best friends'?<br>I saw the look in his eyes, expression on his face when he said how much he was in love with me, how happy I made him, how I made him a better person. It not only came out in words but in his eyes and his expressions. <br>Is he fooling himself? Did I scare him back to his ex? <br>If it's possible to win back his love and devotion, I don't know how. <br>Yet I don't want to push him about it, nor do I want him to see how devastated I am and either make him feel like he's ruined my life or I can't live without him (even though that's how I am feeling)<br>No one know, knows what advice to give me, they are all baffled by it.<br> Can anyone relate?<br>Anyone been on the other side?

I don't know how long he has been away from his ex, but he sounds as if he is fickle to me. He doesn't seem to be emotionally stable either. Some guys live on good times and then as soon as something bad happens, he goes off on a fit and leaves. If I were you, I wouldn't put up with an emotional rollarcoaster like that. I don't like to play games.Especially if I am going to marry someone. He is going to act like that when you're married and you are in for a lot of pain and confusion. You can't rely on feelings to make longterm decisions. The hormones are going to die down some later and you will have him-the good, the bad, and the ugly. Think about that. He needs to realize that problems are going to arise in relationships and he has to learn to work things out like adults. Not run away. I believe in second chances. I would have a once and for all talk with him. Tell him that either you will both learn some relationship skills and continue the relationship or end it. None of this best friend stuff. You are going to get hurt more and it isn't fair to the ex if he is playing with her emotions. It is all or nothing. It sounds harsh, but you gotta do it now or you'll be sorry later. Let us know how everything goes.

Star,<p>Some men are pros at looking you in the eyes and convincing you that they are madly in love and need you....even can produce tears. We all know how good women can be at that, but I have known a few men who were extremely good at it too. I suppose his ex wife scared him off too just as you are afraid you did. Emotions are hard to cut off, but please proceed with caution.