I am about to enter into a new marriage on Feb 14th of this year. My fiance is going through a situation with his ex-wife. He has one child with her and pays child support $150 per week and now that his ex-wife has moved in with her boyfriend and out of their old house, she wants alimony - she now expects $400 per week total (and she does work) - I feel that's unrealistic and at the time of the divorce he never retained an attorney (but of course she did) and her attorney had presented all these unrealistic figures and he basically agreed and signed (I guess out of guilt). Now that she has moved out of their home she now wants the full amount. He wants to go to an attorney but is a procrastinator - and when I try to discuss this situation with him , he basically in so many words tells me to mind my own business. I feel that we are going to become partners in life and that all issues should be discussed - am I wrong?

Good Morning Leesa<p>No you are not wrong. Life together is "life together. He needs to get with an attorney and get that divorce decree amended if he can. Unfortunately the ex-spouses and stepfamilies are a very real part of second marriages, something that is very important and something that makes you feel like you're walking on eggs sometimes. Maybe it is too soon to get married even if you will miss Valentines Day. Sorry but this is serious business and if we don't get it right it can destroy the romance that can be yours. In a sound marriage, trust is required. There is nothing that is not your business when it comes to this kind of relationship. Nothing you shouldn't know. Nothing you can't discuss. Stay with it until you are comfortable Leesa. You deserve it. You have my support and prayers. rsltexas@swbell.net