My wife of 9 years has left my son and I last month. With a court order not to take nothing out of the house, I came home and found the furniture gone. When I called the police, They didn't want to get involved because it is a civil matter. She went to work in a bar and she has found another person to be with. I filed for divorce because when she would pick up our son from school, she would go stright to the bar with him and he never got school work done. When our son walked into the house and seen the furniture gone, he said I do not want to be here no more so I moved for his sake. It has been 2 months since she has talked to her son or has even tried to see him. He is starting to hate his mom because she has not communicated with him at all. He is 8 years old and he knows what is going on. I don't want him to hate his mom, but as the days go by, he is getting more and more upset. Even though he hasen't said anything to this effect, I can tell just by his actions that this is bothering him alot. I just can't grab the concept of a mother just up and leaving her kids without any kind of contact what so ever. I know the drink and drugs have taken control of her life, and in the prosess, destroying other lives as well. I tried so hard to make her happy and it seemed like the more I tried, the worse it got. I feel in my mind that divorce is not a option no more but a fact. I still love my wife and I think about her 24/7. Is there anyway that I can get her out of my mind? It is hard to sleep, it is hard to eat, and it is just hard all the way around. I'm trying to do the best for my son because right now, he needs me more then ever. Should I concider consalling? Any help would be greatly apprecated. Thank You for your time<P>------------------<BR>Rick L.

If either one of you has insurance that covers inpatient rehab (or perhaps even if you don't have it), you might want to contact one of those clinics and see if you can arrange an intervention, where you, your child, and hopefully some other family and friends confront her along with people from the hospital who are ready to take her there.

Yes! Definitely consider counseling. After my wife left me, there were times when a significant part of what got through the days was focusing on my next appointment. Friends and family were an enormous help, but there were some things I just didn't want to talk with them about. A trained counselor can also offer very beneficial psychological insights.<P>For the 24/7 wife-in-mind problem, I found that indulging in escapist entertainment could provide momentary respite. But what helped me the most was to turn that mental agonizing into prayer. My wife was (and still is) on my mind all the time, but praying for her instead of asking "why? why? why?" put me in a much more peaceful frame of mind.<BR>

Hi Rick,<BR>She took the furniture and left you your son? Literally MILLIONS of men would jump at that deal.....don't rock the boat! Sorry this had to happen to you, but you and the little guy are going to be ok.<P>Hang in there, man<P>

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by GnomeDePlume:<BR><B>Yes! Definitely consider counseling. After my wife left me, there were times when a significant part of what got through the days was focusing on my next appointment. Friends and family were an enormous help, but there were some things I just didn't want to talk with them about. A trained counselor can also offer very beneficial psychological insights.<P>For the 24/7 wife-in-mind problem, I found that indulging in escapist entertainment could provide momentary respite. But what helped me the most was to turn that mental agonizing into prayer. My wife was (and still is) on my mind all the time, but praying for her instead of asking "why? why? why?" put me in a much more peaceful frame of mind.</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>