Sysyphus,<P>I agree with you that it could be better to be low profile and just wait for the consequences.<P>The problem is that she is attacking me through our mutual friends what makes me feel bad. As I said, I do not want to take the rap for anything I didn’t do.<P>Apart of that my children are being influenced by her in a delicate phase of their life. I do not think they should know now about the affair because they are just 4 and 7 but I do not want them to hear the lies about their father and to get the feeling their poor and ingenuous mother is a victim.<P>She is not being honest with me. She is not being honest with herself.<P>I am sure I will be respected by my friends because they will see that up to now I was silent just to try to safeguard her and the children and that I had to be attacked a lot before disclosing the truth.<P>GnomeDePlume,<P>I agree that if I protest too much I would just feed the suspicious my x-wife has already aroused. My intention is not to protest too much, it is just to defend the children and me.<BR>I do not plan to broadcast all details about the issue. I would just talk to my old and good friends that are astonished with the things “I” have done.<P>The very few people that know my side of the story (my brothers) said me: “now I understand what happened because the victim story we heard from your x-wife didn’t make any sense”.<P>Sometimes truth hurts but it is not wise to run from truth like she is doing.

BrambleRose,<P>You said that "what other people think about me is none of my business."<BR>I agree with you up to the time such “other people” are not your good friends and loved relatives<P>dvpc

Even a crackhead needs the goodwill of others. Specifically, the police. Hence the old NYC saying: "If you're cool to <I>The Man</I>, you walk." <P>The need to have the goodwill of others only increases as you go higher up the food chain, until you aspire to the presidency, where you need the goodwill of enough voters to gather 50% +1 of the electoral college votes.<P>You <I>do</I> care what other people think, and not just about <I>you</I>. If other people stopped thinking about commerce and art and science, and thought only of war and genocide, things would get ugly real quick. <P>