I notice you said in another post that the OW lied to you too and you didn't know what to believe. Well, this happened to me so many times now my head is just spinning.<P>Any advice for MAKING yourself believe your H? How did you do it? I would love to know if you can help!

Hi Cristalle,<P>I knew it because lots of things she said made no sense to me after I thought about it for a while. For example, to defend her self, she gave the impression that my H was the one who after her and she told me that actually she has a boyfriend. I remember that one of my H excused was that he was trying to match making her with our friend and this fact is confirmed with a friend of H which is also mine. So if she could lie on that one, I bet she lies on others too. Beside, I have her chat-buffer saved which explained lots of stuff she tried to turn things around. Another example, a week before our wedding she wrote : "Anyway, congratulation for whatever you want to do. You are crazy if you think that I would come to your wedding" and she DID not come eventhough we had invite her. So this is also re-confirmed my feelings that this girl was lying when she told me that she has no feelings at all towards my H. Beside this, I found out that she had sent my H a poem. I did not read the poem but I read a a letter my H sent, H wrote there "Oh I am sorry that I forgot about the poem. I don't know that it meant something...well, I am sorry that I did not know that. I don't know...maybe we are just two different people with two different way in expressing our selves" I had a small grin at this part that this girl is pouring her feelings out in a poem and H did not even realise it <P>After that, I really felt sorry for her and got angrier with my H for treating someone that way. So I did not confront her with anything ever again, I really did feel sorry and pity her. And at that time, I felt that I and H had many things to straighten up (including how to behave him self on the net!!) so I have never replied any letters of her and focussed my self more to H and I.<P>Hope that'll help. Sorry for being quite late in replying but I am on the other side of the world (South East Asia)so your night is my day. I wish that everything will going fine with you and your H. I will always be here when you need me or you can e-mail me on steelheart@starplace.com.<P>Saskia