I have been reading alot of your old posts. Your story seems so similar to mine - all the fake reconciliations. I am now in plan b from my H, for about a month. How do I know if H will ever come out of the fog? Should I continue to wait? It's gotten to the point that I will alienate all who love me if I ever did take him back - he's hurt me that much. He's currently living with OW. He is a complete stranger now.<P>I guess my question is how did you feel and how did guard feel during all this time? I'm assuming that he thought his OW was his soulmate as well? <P>I know ultimately she cheated on guard, right? Do you think he'd have come out of the fog if this hadn't happened? Do you understand the fog better since you've kinda "been there?" I would so love to have a boy friend (notice I seperate the words) - the ego takes so a nosedive through all this. <P>Anyway, I hope you can give me some insight. I have been lurking for awhile and feel like I know you. I hope I'm not being too presumptuous.<P>Thanks.

Hi living with memories, <P>You picked a great person to get insight from. If she doesn't reply here, I'd try posting on the "recovery" board because thats where I last saw her posting. Dana<BR>