O.K. here is my question to anyone that has gone through the same thing as me. I filed for a separation a month ago and now every time I see my spouse I am having second thoughts. I am O.K. when I don't see him but, every weekend when he visits the kids I get very upset and feel very sorry for him.<br>The main reasons that I filed for a separation were that I have been trying to get him to take responsibility for his financial problems. I felt like I was talking to a brick wall for the past three years. (There are other problems as well, but this was the major one.) As soon as he got papers notifying him of the separation he took action and has now talked to a trustee.<br>I really feel like I need time before I can have him back in my life (if that is what we decide to do). I just don't know if I am being fair by asking this of him. I am not 100% sure that I want him back anyway and I cannot make this mistake a second time. Thank you for any comments you can give me.