-i dont know if this is the right board to post this on-<br>Ok me and my husband were married a year ago. I'm currently thinking about seperation. I am and have been having a problem with trusting him. I'm the type of person when you violate my trust i keep my guard up. With him it never fails. He has a rather embarassing past that keeps comming back up. Girls mostly & e-mails. He doesnt take responsiblity he always makes it seem like he is soooo sorry and he just doesnt know what to do, but yet he hides alot of stuff and just lets it go on. That tells me he doesnt mind what is going on. I dont like being in this marriage with him. I dont trust him, i am at the point where i just tolrate him. He embarasses me often. Most of the time i dont even want to be around him because he has become this constant reminder of the things he has put me through. I'm so tired of dealing with his problems and solving them for him. I just want out, when we talk he pleds and begs for me not to leave but nothing gets better. We have been through Christian counsling and he says yeah ok i'll correct fix etc....not much has changed. People tell me to have patience, but during the time when i'm waiting on him to change-my mental state is depeleting. They only joy I have is my Chruch Family and my daughters.(11months old) I dont want them to grow up seeing this type of marriage-it's not a good example of one. i dont know what to do. is there any way i can help these things??? I'm i right to seprate?

T,<p>I think you should look into getting a counsellor - someone impartial who could maybe help you sort out some of your feelings and maybe some of your expectations of married life. Speaking as a newlywed with problems of my own, you should definitely try to work it out if at all possible. The children should be reason enough for you, but you should really consider whether YOU want to try. Good luck.