Well, it is done.<P>The decree was entered today. I got most everything I wanted; the most important being my daughter! :-)<P>My now former MIL was in court with my now X. She is in town for a visit. X and her attorney really didn't have it together. I'll bet her attorney is ready to be done with X. I was not in court, but my attorney filled me in. <P>Apparently former MIL went to church with X over the weekend. The OM was along too. Hello former MIL, got a clue yet? My best friend was there and bumped into them. He pretty much ignored the OM and did not shake his hand. He said the OM was pretty much following along. What a loser. He must be desperate. His X said that he was lonely.<P>Well, it changes nothing. X thinks it was what she needed to move on. Well, it's just a piece of paper at this point. She will still have to live with the guilt and probably later she will have to live with the regret.<P>Professional life is wonderful. I won a performance award late last week!!! I need to push for a huge raise. Personal life will be wonderful in time.<P>Ever forward -><P>Kevin<P>

Hi Kevin,<P>Well, you made it through the dreaded day. You are a good example of the acceptance stage. I am happy to hear you in an upbeat mood. <P>All the others who do not appreciate you (XW, MIL, etc.) will one day regret losing a great person and friend from their lives. I am glad you were able to retain custody of your daughter. I am not sure where my life is going to lead me. H went from talking D to coming back to his family but has not given OW the heave ho notice. So at this time, I am not counting my chickens before they hatch. Kind of on hold. I told H I now need to see what value he will bring back to the family before I can commit us to accepting him back. I do not want to be disappointed again. <P>You received an award at work! This is great. Things are turning around in your life. I am glad. I am sure your little one is proud of her dad. <P>Take care and continue to be an inspiration to us all. It is good to see such a good example of a loving father.<P>Take Care,<BR>L.<P> <P>

Kevin,<P>I'm glad court worked out well for you, and congratulations on the award at work, thats quite an accomplishment considering the circumstances in life recently. You are right, your personal life will one day be wonderful too. In the meantime, enjoy your daughter and stay strong. I remember my divorce didn't actually hit me that day but a few days later. Dana<BR>

Continue to grow...<BR>...for you and your D.<P>I understand completely how you feel...<BR>Gaining custody of the children is rewarding...<BR>...in the knowledge of the gifts you have for them/her!<P>Good luck!<P> <P>Jim

Glad to hear you're doing so well with it. I was so tired of it all and it had dragged on for three or four years at that point and I just felt relief. <P>Congratulations on the award at work. A little validation at a time like this is probably just the thing you needed.