Update:<br>There are really two types of people out there. The commited and the not so committed. Why is this? Is there a gene missing? Poor childhood? Were some of us dropped on our heads too many times as babies? Is it that one drinks more milk? Eats more spinach? Has more hormones? What is it with people? Really what is wrong with people? Do they really think that life is just going to be so much better with someone else, or by themselves, or on another planet? Does not anyone think of their children anymore. Does noone care about their vows or their word? Does noone have the desire to go the extra mile for their own happiness anymore. I ask again what is wrong with people? Any thoughts?

I agree<br>the world is going to ****<br>I feel sorry for future generations, its going to be harder and harder to keep a marriage together<br>the whole world is being sucked into thinking <br>the grass is greener and sexier on the other side<br>I mean have you ever noticed how much sex figures in advertisments, tv, movies, and music these days?

I don't know if one could respond to the question with only a single answer. There is great discontent among people for various reasons, whether rich or poor, educated or ignorant, etc. I know in one aspect of myself, I sometimes am satisfied with what I have, until I meet someone who has more. Unfortunately, money equals freedom in this country. We spend anywhere from a hundred dollars on up to thousands just trying to buy a little rest and relaxation for a day or a week. Taxes are so high that you have to make three dollars in order to have one dollar which is spendable. We are slaves to the government. The lack of money is a great destroyer of happiness in marriage also.

Rusty,<br>Then you have those cross-bred people. Those committed to their marriage, but still want to experience life on the other side. My wife never wanted to disolve our marriage, but had an affair to try to find her happiness. She never asked for a separation. Despite her confusion, depression, guilt, etc. She still didn't want to split. <br>I think that the committment thing is not the issue. It is the "me above all else" syndrome. Everyone seems to be putting themselves above anyone else. Marriage, children, etc. I think self control and denial is becoming a thing of the past.

How r things Rusty, I remenmber your situ very much like mine. By your tone she is still got the old crust around the heart....mine too.

Rusty/Prag,<br>That crust can eventually crumble. My wife's has started to. A bit. She can't vocalize it, but I can see it in her actions and in the tone of her voice. <br>In the past, I have tried to give advice on what I think worked. But I won't do that now. All I can say is that they have to work things out on their own.

What ever happened to the "Little House on the Prairie" days when people relied on each other, helped each other out, and marriage meant something? Unfortunately, in this day and age, some people go into marriage thinking that if things don't work, divorce is an option. What happened to "in good times and bad, til death do us part?"

People are realizing that they only have one life to live. You could argue that they are being selfish in trying to make the most of it.<br>People are living longer. They are going through lots more life changes now. The world is a fast changing place.<p>People will not stand still in being taken for granted anymore. They can find a new mate down the street or where ever.<p>People are divorcing the idea of sex from marriage. How many marriages stay together "for the kids", which most parents didn't really want anyway.<p>People are realizing that the "happy ending" we were raised on is largely myth, so they go looking anywhere to have their needs met.<p>People are getting more financially independent. A woman often now has the funds to make it through a divorce.<p>People are more mobile now. Very few still live in the same town where they were raised, and moving 5 states away isn't unusual at all.<p>In short (too late for that) almost everyone today sees that they do have a choice.<p>Sometimes I think that nobody should get married. That way we would all work to cherish and nurture our relationships more because we would have to prove them every day. But then we could never take our mates for granted, huh?

ever noticed how people that's been the victim of an affair tend to think about how unfair life is? i've been hearing the same old story about how the world is going to hell in a hand basket for as long as i can remember. i'm 50yrs. old and think things have never been so good. think about it. this board sure is nice to have. we didn't have them only a few years ago. what about laws against domistic abuse, we now have shelters for abused woman. there was a time a man could beat his wife as much as he wanted and no one would say a word but that was before my time. we're getting a little gun control now, before that was never heard of. we've got antidepressants, that's a miracle. we've got viagra, anothe miracle. we got the religious right and many other spiritual organizations. look at what former president jimmy carter is doing and inspiring others to do. look at how so many woman have broken through the glass ceiling in their careers that they were once denied. what is wrong with people? the same thing that's always been wrong with them. people have been having affairs since the beginning of time, woman have been having children by other men since the beginning of time but thanks to birth control and such that doesn't happen as often. and that's anothe thing, isn't the pill still a miracle. i remember my grandmother saying, " everytime jackson hung his pants on the bed post i got pregnant." yea, things have never been better.