I just posted last night about how H told me that he is not in love with me anymore after 15 yrs of marriage and 3 kids. Our marriage has not been bad overall but his emotional A with a single coworker has really skewed his thinking. Two wks ago OW pressured H to divorce me so he had papers served on me. I called him at work and insisted he come home where he told me that that is definitely what he wanted. I went to the home of a Christian friend and called my pastor. When I went home that night H told me it was the worst mistake of his life, that he still loves me and he cancelled the papers the next day. Now its 2 wks later and we had a repeat performance. H told me last night that it was divorce or dissolution- my choice.( He hoped I'd pick the dissolution- its cheaper) I told him no way!I will NEVER agree that our marriage should be over! We brought 3 great kids into this world together who deserve more than that. God hates divorce and that it would be the full blown $$$ divorce with my contesting everything. H said fine and went to sleep on the couch. I prayed during the night for clarity of his mind and discernment and conviction in his heart.That he would see the error of his ways and turn from evil, cling to what is good. I said "God let me know the plans you have for me." And He did. This morning H told me he laid awake most of the night reviewing his life and realized he still does love me and that there would be no more indecision. He started to cry. Good thing God works late nights. PS I read this board every day and will pray for all of you in difficult situations lifeismessy

Amen. Nothing else to say.<P>Bill

The power of prayer is amazing. I'll pray for you as well.

I am very happy for you. Have you read "Surviving an Affair"? Get it ASAP if you can!<P>My best wishes to you.<P>------------------<BR>--BR<BR><I>Pain is a given, misery is optional.</I>

Thank GOD. I want to request a prayer. My H has been living with the OW for 9 1/2 months. I have been praying constantly for him to WAKE UP and for this evil female to be cast out of his life. Please pray for Paul & Sandy.

I just recently read that the power of prayer is fueled by our faith. That when we pray for something we desperately desire, we need to pray thanking God for our already receiving what we are asking him to deliver to us. It said that is the most powerful sign of faith - thanking God for something He has not yet delivered, without ANY doubts...<P>How hard that is to do - I struggle daily to try to get to that point...<P>Mike<P>------------------<BR>God always waits for the right time to do the right thing in the right way.

Hurtwife I will definitely pray for you ! Thank you so much for all your kind replies. I wanted to reccommend an excellent book of prayers- its called The Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie O'martian. She herself wanted a divorce at one time and writes prayers that speak to the core of broken relationships. Her prayers for a husband's temptations, fears, mind,decisions, affection and trials are especially good.Shes adds scriptures to her prayers that say just the right thing.I just love this book. I read it faithfully every night. She says that in every divorce at least one of the people has hardened their heart to God. I think this is so true.Take care- prayers to all of you! lifeismessy

The power of prayer can't be under-estimated!! Although my marriage could not be saved; during the turmoil, I saw many many times that my prayers were answered and even little miracles. Praise God for your miracle!<P>I know that it isn't the Lord's will that my marriage has ended. This is a test for me, a test in faith. <P>I will add you to my prayer list!<P>Petrie<P>

Thank you lifeismessy, I need all the prayers I can get. I'll pray for you also. May GOD Bless.<BR>

I'm really glad to hear that prayer worked for you. I too have prayed but I guess God is not ready to deliver just yet. I wish all the best to you and your spouse as you heal from the hurt this confusion has caused. Thank you very much for your prayers as long as we have prayer we have hope.<P>------------------<BR>Elayne