Sorry for posting and then just disappearing and not answering other posts, but it's almost as if sky has fallen on my head.<P>Tell me guys, does the OW always think that she is right in taking somebody else's husband away? The OW called me, and informed me that she will do her best to make sure that I get s*****d during the divorce, and that I will be left with no money because this is what I deserve. What is she thinking, that she's the God herself?!<BR>I was so puzzled that I was just standing there, listening to her talk and then hang up. Should I have told her anything?<P>Husband cut all the contact with me, as per his attorney's advice and they sent me a letter, telling me that if I want to contact my husband, I have to do so through his attorneys. What is he afraid of, that I will bite him on the phone?<P>I am so depressed right now. My psychologist is out of town for the week and I have nobody to talk to. Prozac doesn't seem to be working as good as it did before. <P>Sorry for boring you with my problems, I'm sure you guys have plenty of your own, but I need some support, big time.<P>I miss my husband so much. I wish he were here with me, I wish we'd go to bed to cuddle and the fall asleep in each other's arms as we did before. <BR>I hate the house to be so silent. <P>Marion<BR>

Marion,<P>Your post really touched home with me...I remember those feelings, granted my ex didn't treat me badly but the lonliness and depression I remember it so well...<P>All I can say is you have to feel that pain and walk through it...Like my shrink told me I have to allow myself to feel the depression when it comes and I have to believe that way people treat me is not actualy how I deserve to be treated and you are not imposing on us in any way. <P>Hang in there...<P>Bill<P>------------------<BR><P>May the roads rise to meet you,<BR>May the winds always be at your back,<BR>May the sun shine warm upon your face,<BR>The rains fall soft upon your fields,<BR>And until we meet again,<BR>May god hold you<BR>In the hollow of his hand.

Let Jesus fill that need. I know how you feel, not having your spouse there. Have you gone to <A HREF="http://www.rejoiceministries.org?" TARGET=_blank>www.rejoiceministries.org?</A> They have helped me tremendously. God is the God of miracles. Don't give up hope. I too am on medication so I know how you feel. I just got served this week. But I know that God is greater than anything that is going on. Get a big teddy bear and hug it when your sad. Someone gave me a big Pooh bear and it really works. Read some books, I would recommend The Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian. But most of all remember that when we put all our worth in our spouses, we lose our identity with ourselves. I learned that the hard way and now I know that God is a "jealous" God and wants to be put first in our lives. You are going through this for a reason, so trust in the Lord and he will help you and will work miracles. Write me if you would like. I'm with you all the way!<P>Carol<BR>findandkeep@yahoo.com

Marion,<P>Document it! Write down everything that she said and you said during the conversation. And make sure you have a good attorney. You were right in not talking to her.<P>Is your psychologist part of a group of Drs.? If so, give them a call anyway. It may be possible to temporarily increase your medication to get you over this crisis. Also, could this have some resemblance to premenstral dysphoria? Some anti-depressants are not as effective for some women during that time of the month (Drs. aren't quite sure why). My Dr.'s solution was to temporarily boost the meds. at that time and then drop back down after a few days. So I have extra pills added to each prescription just for unforeseen crisis and the dysphoria. But it takes several months to verify such a diagnosis.<P>And finally, Martin Luther had four ways that he warded off depression and anxiety:<BR>- music (make a joyful noise --- not sad stuff)<BR>- being with other people<BR>- doing 'earthy' things (like gardening --- i.e. hard work)<BR>- and reading his Bible & prayer.<P>They work.<BR>I'd recommend that you call on your local support system and make plans for this weekend. Try to schedule your days as full as possible ---- live life!<P>Good luck. I know it doesn't seem like you can get through this right now, but you can. I know you can. I've been there too. <P>The important things are to learn how to deal with it, set yourself up a support system that you can call on day or night, and develop yourself a positive plan (or several) that you can act on as soon as you notice the depression setting in.<P>Coming here can be part of those plans.<P>~Amy