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Please help!! My h of 19 years has decided he wants a new life...up until a week before he left he kept telling me that we were working on the marriage and everything would be ok. So when he told me he was moving out the next week I was shocked...He left the house pretty empty and our 3 sons have been mostly in my care..they are now starting to trade off weeks..I don't understand..he won't even talk to me and says he doesn't miss our marriage at all. He has several women he is seeing and I believe he still loves me but is so blinded by this new bachelor life he has he won't even talk about us maybe trying to work this out. Not to mention my loneliness and heartache and the absolutely caustic way he has cut me out of his life. How can someone lie up until the day they leave and act the 19 years was nothing? Please help and advise..he has seen an attorney and had papers drawn but I have not been served as yet. I have an attorney and will relunctantly accept the end result...any suggestions as to how to get through this initial period of hurt, anger, fear, loneliness, etc, etc, etc....(he has been gone 3 weeks.
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Glad you found us. You will receive a lot of support here. <P>Would you like to save your marriage??? There is lots of great advice here on how to do just that....read read read. <P>We are always here to listen and there are many of us who know exactly how you feel.<P>You can fight for your marriage...he has not actually filed yet so read up on plan A and go from there. Usually there is a post of general welcome from NSR. But I encourage you to read all info here especially on PlanA.<P>
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I hear you saying "reluctantly" accept the final decision. This to me says you don't want the final decision to be divorce. It doesn't have to be. I was served just this week. I'm not going to accept that as the final decision. I have decided to STAND and will do so according to God's Word which is stronger than my husband's anger and need for "freedom". Go to <A HREF="http://www.rejoiceministries.org." TARGET=_blank>www.rejoiceministries.org.</A> Sign up for their newsletter and get the materials. Write me if you wish at findandkeep@yahoo.com. Many prayers to you!
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<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by HopelessinAZ:<BR><B>Glad you found us. You will receive a lot of support here. <P>Would you like to save your marriage??? There is lots of great advice here on how to do just that....read read read. <P>We are always here to listen and there are many of us who know exactly how you feel.<P>You can fight for your marriage...he has not actually filed yet so read up on plan A and go from there. Usually there is a post of general welcome from NSR. But I encourage you to read all info here especially on PlanA.<BR></B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Many thanks...I have found much information and some comfort in others words and sharing. I hope to be an active member and especially putting Plan A into action. Please pray for me...kb3
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<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Cigiwriter:<BR><B>I hear you saying "reluctantly" accept the final decision. This to me says you don't want the final decision to be divorce. It doesn't have to be. I was served just this week. I'm not going to accept that as the final decision. I have decided to STAND and will do so according to God's Word which is stronger than my husband's anger and need for "freedom". Go to <A HREF="http://www.rejoiceministries.org." TARGET=_blank>www.rejoiceministries.org.</A> Sign up for their newsletter and get the <P><BR>materials. Write me if you wish at findandkeep@yahoo.com. Many prayers to you!</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>CGwriter:<BR>Found the affirmation uplifting at this especially low time. I pray much and am beginning to understand how God comforts us in trying times, but we have to let him...will write to you soon...kb3
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Like you already have been advised-you'll get lots of support and advise here and restore ministries is awesome too.<P>I appreciate your kind words to my post!<P>I'll be praying for you and your husband<BR>Petrie
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