To so many of you who have posted on my recent thread, thankyou so much. I have read and am implementing much of your advise. However, things are now moving too fast for much of it to prevent her from leaving. <P>Last night my W told my older daughter she was considering moving. This was several hours after my W had told me about playing tennis with her girlfriend and meeting two guys (also our friends and an innocent and unplanned meeting) and playing doubles in the afternoon. She called me, worried about how I would feel. When I got home yesterday, I told her, as I had before, that the most important thing is that she be open and honest. I understood what happened and really had no problem with it. Well, for some unexplained reason, that seemed to send her into major depressed mood. Now today, the same girlfriend (the wife of the couple we consider our best friends) calls me at work bawling to tell me she talked to my W on the phone today and my W told her she sees no way out other than leaving. I come home this afternoon and find out she had told my older daughter the same thing last night. So I’m thinking "what the H… is going on here?" and then it hits me what she told me about two months ago. She promised to tell me if there was any continued contact with the OM. And if she found she couldn’t, she would leave. Her morals are above continuing to stay with me in a dihonest and decieving relationship. So I believe that is what is happening. She is keeping the latter part of her promise. Any suggestions? Do I confront her and tell her I’ll forgive her slip ups? Do I agree it is time for plan B if it is true that the affair is still on? I called today to set up an appointment call with Dr. Harley but I know it will be a while before that takes place. I just found out from both of my daughters that she has talked to them both. The older one told her she didn’t want to leave and the younger one told her she wasn’t leaving. Our girls could be two of my (our?)biggest allies. Guess it worries me a little that she could totally flip out and just fly the coupe.
