Hi all,<P>I have just recently posted a few things. I was served on Tuesday. Of course he is stating "irreconcilable differences" and want to be free of alimony.<P>It's funny (not haha, just funny) how when satan get's a hold of someone how squewed their mind becomes. I know my spouse. I know his heart. It is soft and warm and he hurts so much. I know that Standing for my marriage is the right thing. That God is right here next to me. I FEEL HIM next to me.<P>You know in the midst of turmoil, I feel hope. I know that God is more powerful than any wrath of my spouse, than any divorce papers, than any lawyer. I know that I vassilate from this feeling, but am glad that I feel that way now! <P>I have read so many of the threads. Don't give up, just continue on trusting God. He is there, he will help. Give faith a try when nothing else seems to matter.<P>Write me and we can talk!<P>findandkeep@yahho.com

Cigi- I TOTALLY agree with your point of view about marriage. My H filed on me 2 wks ago then after talking to him he cancelled the papers the next day. ( thank God!) I told him that it is not God's will that we be divorced, that its not how we're raising our children at church,that love is a choice, that he is CHOOSING to continue in sin. He brought up divorce again a few nights ago and I had a long talk with him again.I feel that my prayer( I love the prayers in the book Power of a Praying Wife) and reading the Bible has helped me gain emotional strength that I never knew I had. I asked God to make H's thoughts discern His truth and that he feel convicted in his heart for what he's done.H had been talking about getting his own apartment- I told him he should be more concerned about his eternal home! The next morning he cried and said he was sorry that he brought up divorce again. Now I realize that no matter what happens next- divorce or reconciliation it is in God's hands and that God is my fortress I can never be shaken.My faith is much deeper than ever before.I also have new Christian friends to talk to when I get discouraged. Thanks for your post! lifeismessy

Cigiwriter,<P>Great attitude. It took me some time to come to that conclusion. My wife filed 3 days ago and moved out yesterday. I was crushed and still am but when it was all over I prayed and felt the healing begin. The only reason I share this with you is to tell you that along the path that you will be following there will be many tests of your faith. Stay strong and believe the He will guide in the end.<P>Love, Bill<P>------------------<BR>-There are none so blind as those who refuse to see!-

Hi Bill,<P>Thanks for the words. Your right, one minute I'm up, the next down. My spouse is being so mean right now because I won't sign. Says that I am trying to control him still. Of course he is being manipulative and I believe there is a OW involved. How are things going with you?