After all the unresponsive words of wisdom, my wife of 1 year has move into an apartment. This is not over as far as we are concerned. Too much alike (stubborn, pig headed, need to be dominant). The love is still there, luckily, but we split before it became irrepairable. There is a big age difference between us (50 and 19), but I don't think that is the major problem. I love this woman dearly and don't want to lose her. Anybody have ideas of willing to be an unbiased observer?

hjg,<p>More information is needed in order to help you. Which one of you in the older one? What lead you to this state. How long have you been married? Please give us more to go on. <p>Steph

I'm 50, she's 19. Neither of us think the age difference is a big problem. I'm younger than my age, she's older than hers. The only problem that might cause is just a generational difference. (I remember the 25 cent gas and the first hand held calculaters) We are both very independent and quick on the temper. Just yelling, no hitting, luckily. There is a deep love here, but as she put it "I love you, I just don't want to be around you". I'm not sure what is going through her mind, but I "know" that I'm going to have to change and adapt to some things. It hurt very deeply when she left (saturday), but after just 2 days I think this might be a good thing. Time to sit and realize what I might be in jeopardy of losing. Neither of us want this to end. I say that with confidence on her part. I may have babbled long enough. Any thoughts or ideas appreciated.

hjg,<p>If your tempers seem to be the big issue I think counseling should help you learn to control them and communicate your feelings without getting angry. I think the two of you should go through this together. Learn to confront each other without the anger. You sound like you have alot of hope which is a good thing. Good luck. <p>Steph

jhg<br>Just out of curiosity, Have you been married<br>before?? If I get an answer to this question<br>I will continue on. and This is for my own<br>information in my own situation.<br>Thanks,<br>didi

Yes, I was married from 1972 until 1976. I lived with another woman for a couple of years, but have been on my own from 1979 until 1995. That's when we met. I never planned to remarry, I wasn't looking for someone, it just happened. That's why I am so concerned about this relationship. It wasn't manufactured out of need or desire. Need anymore?