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Hi... I'm going to post this and then check out for a couple of days while traveling. But, I'm curious to hear if any of you have any personal regrets for your thoughts/actions/behaviors during your personal ordeal? If so, can you share WHAT in fact, you'd do differently if you had the chance?<P>I'll be back when I get to Vienna...<P>Cheers,<BR>Nicole<P>------------------<BR>We cannot do everything at once... but we can do something at once
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Tons. I regret being so upset to the point of hysterical through nost of this. I regret wearing my heart on my sleeve and allowing my stbx to use that against me. I regret not following my instinct and avoiding this whole ordeal by not marrying him. I regret not getting angry enough and allowing his flaws to reflect on me. I regret letting another person manipulate me and make me believe that all this is my fault and accepting that.<BR> Tons of regrets and nothing I can do about it now. I'm thankful though to now know that my stbx has no feelings whatsoever for me thus freeing my guilty consience from any actions I may now take in this pending divorce.
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Only about a million -- and they suck.<P>I'm really not in a place to list them... Off the top of my head, my top three...<P>I regret that I didn't take my ex-H's early affairs more seriously and embark on a plan to keep them from ever happening again...<P>I regret that I had the mindsight that "I would never do that" because when you do, you open yourself WIDE UP for a wake-up-call-kick-in-the-head. And I eventually did have an affair of my own.<P>I regret causing pain to every single person in my life, but most especially to my ex-H, my children, and myself.<P>------------------<BR>~Sheryl<BR>(a bit worse for the wear, but hanging in there)<P><B>Life <I>is</I> difficult</B>.<BR><I>The Road Less Traveled</I><BR>~M. Scott Peck
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