Hi all,<P>Thanks for writing me back on other threads. I am a "stander" standing for my marriage. My spouse filed for divorce and had me served last week. I will be seeing a lawyer this week and have decided not to sign. My husband says that "he is praying I sign so we can both get on with our lives since we don't love each other." I hate how he speaks for me since I still love him. I believe there is another woman involved and satan is quick to tell me that I am right. All weekend I felt defeated that I should give up and give in and go on with my life. I hate this so much, it's hard to do anything but sleep. Please write back, I feel so desparate.

Cigiwriter,<P>Once your H has filed...<BR>...you need to <B>protect</B> yourself legally (and/or financially)... I usually make the recommendation of finding a <B>good</B> attorney. A good place to start off is at the <A HREF="http://lawyers.martindale.com/marhub/form/by.html" TARGET=_blank>Martindale-Hubbell Lawyer Search</A> site. Do a search within your county... look for only "family law" specialists(>80% in divorce/custody/etc.)... make sure they do a lot of "family law committee work"... if they know the judges all the better... You can normally find a few that will give initial counseling free of charge.<BR><A HREF="http://www.uslaw.com" TARGET=_blank>USLaw.com</A> (an alternative search site)<P>You can stand for your marriage...<BR>...but the courts will fight you on the "earthly" things.<BR>(the spiritual/moral things of this world are not measurable by the courts/legal system)<P>You will both suffer financially...<BR>...to protect even a portion of your lifestyle...<BR>...you need to see a <B>good</B> attorney.<P>Keep praying...<BR>...miracles can and do happen...<BR>...but realize in your prayers... it's not your will that counts...<P>You have my prayers.<P> <P><A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000254.html" TARGET=_blank>Jim</A> / <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000037.html" TARGET=_blank>NSR</A>