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You are a blessed Man with a son who cares for you so much. We do not take offense.

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Glad you can laugh SOH! <BR>

By the way Nora,<P>Thank you for the compassion you wrote in your last, longer posting. I have been reluctant to share my story, because I have found that people often have used it to discount my writings on the subject. It seems that if a possible negative motive can be conjured up, then the truth of such a strong message can be set aside.<P>Even though there is not much most of those writing here have experienced and suffered through that I have not personally had to carry, I tend to shove to one side the way I feel, and keep it very private. I consider this the most important issue facing all of us, and I think a careful reading of the full thesis treats it fairly.<P>The thesis has been distributed rather broadly in all branches of the Church and seems to be doing its part to stem the tide. The one posted here is without much more than bare bones theological content. It is intended to cause people to reflect on what they are doing and to realize that perhaps, just perhaps they should seek God in His word before they do what the flesh wants to do.<P>I will respond much more in a subsequent post to yours and others concerns and questions. May God give you a wonderful weekend<P>SpiritofHope<P>

You have a wonderful weekend too, SOH. And your son, too.<P>Still, I have to say, that I am not here because I am looking for a lover or even a male friend to interact with. I am here because I am struggling with my divorce and the infidelity that accompanied it. Even if I felt free to remarry, I know I would not be ready.<P>I know that I would welcome anyone who is praising God through their circumstances and who can give the evidence of God's grace in their life. Again, since you are the scolar and neither I nor many of those here can claim this distinction, can you give us some chapter and verse that we can claim for the grace the Lord will use to meet our most pressing needs? Because, whether the Lord uses a spouse or not, He is the One who meets our needs. <P>And why do you consider this the most pressing issue facing us in this forum? Do you think we have said -- "enough of the tough stuff -- let me find a new mate"? Because you need to read more if that is what you believe. We are here primarily because more than anything else, we welcome the restoration of the marriage God intended us to have. We want that and pray for that.<P>Most people here are being divorced against their will, and although they fight it, the courts are making it possible. Some (far fewer) are like me, and divorce is my choice for dealing with the continual infidelity of my husband over the last 2 1/2 years. I choose not to remain married as God has given me this option for the hardness of my heart.(Matt. 19:3) It is not an issue of remarriage. I am not getting out so that I can get back in.<P>So I reiterate, that I do not understand why you feel it is compelling to preach to us about remarriage, when we don't want to leave the marriage we have. I wish your compelling arguments could be used to turn back the WSs to the "wives of their youth".(Proverbs 5:18-23)