Well, as most of you know, I am currently in Divorce proceeding with my current W. I have been married before, and it has been about 10 years since my first D was final. Since that time there have been many ups and downs with my first wife as far as custody of our OD is concerned, but we have always managed to work things through. Within the last 2 years our relationship has gotten much better, and I have been able to discuss some of the problems that I am currently going through with my STBX. These have been some of the oddest conversations that I have ever had with someone. I know that by talking and being honest with my 1st ex, I can keep some stability for our daughter. The thing that I am finding very weird is that my 1st ex has offered to set me up with one of her friends.<P>I have come to the realization, that my current marriage is now over. I am moving forward with my life, and have decided that going out and actually having a life again is not a bad thing. I am not looking for a LTR, but being able to go out and have some fun, and an intelligent converstaion with an attractive woman is something that I want to start doing again.<P>Is it me, or is the fact that my ex-wife is trying to set me up with one of her friends seem weird to anyone else? I am not sure where to go with this. Any ideas?<P>Griz<p>[This message has been edited by Griz (edited May 14, 2001).]

I know how weird it must feel! <P>Be sure you are ready to date of course, but then, why not?

Thanks NoraP,<P>I was leaning that way myself, but I just find it extremely weird. <P>Anybody else have any input?<P>Griz

At first I thought you were going to say you were going to date your ex wife! (OK, it happens in real life sometimes.) But, I think her offer to to set you up with a date is very sweet! It seems like a loving and generous gesture to me, and I think you should take her up on it, if you're ready. Why not?! Now is a good time to make some new friends, get some new clothes, and improve your lifestyle.<P>Stay busy,<BR>Nell

Is your ex wife re-married? If not she could be testing you to see if you'd be interested in her. Maybe she's checking to see if your ready to date. Possible?

ooooo, BonnieSept has a good point! You know us guys are not the most astute sometimes when it comes to women!<P>------------------<BR>God always waits for the right time to do the right thing in the right way.

BonnieSept,<P>Yes, my ex-W is re-married, and they are doing pretty well in their relationship. They have been together for 10 years and things are looking good for them. So I don't believe that she is testing me. Like I mentioned, over the past two years our relationship has improved. We are able to talk frankly about what is best for our daughter, and the conflict that we use to have is greatly reduced. But she is still my ex, and it is strange that she wants to set me up with someone. <P>I give it a try. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. <P>Griz

Your x should be the one to know your likes/dislikes, so you shouldn't be walking into something with a woman that is totally opposite of you.

HI Griz,<P>How do you think her 2nd H feels about her offer? Would it cause any problems? I do think it's weird, and if it were me, I'd probably say thanks for the offer but choose not to take it. <P>Dana

DanaB,<P>My ex's 2nd H is sort of a strange man. I have had problems in the past concerning my daughter, but in the last few years things are getting better. As far as his relationship with my ex, I do envy the fact that she is open and honest with him, and tells him everything that we talk about (I wish my W was more like that ). So he knows about her wanting to set me up with one of her friends, and as far as I know, does not have any problem with that. He is secure in the fact that my ex has no desire (as far as we both know), to rekindle anything with me. Nor would I want that.<P>So as far as going out with my ex's friend, I think one date probably wouldn't hurt. I t has been so long since I was out in the single world, and am unsure of a lot of things. I guess I will see what happens. <P>It is still very strange.<P>Griz