How do I prove that another woman has caussed my husband to leave me and his two young daughters? We have been separated for 4 months, he is flaunting her everywhere, especually around my children. How do I prove it? We are not legally separated either, I just want to prove he is with her now and has abandoned his own children and me. help please.

Dear B,<P>It takes 2 to make a relationship. While I would like to put the full blame on the OW, H was mainly to blame. Afterall, I am not married to OW, what OW does is really none of my business, unless it affects my family. <P>Coming to that realization help me put things in perspective. You need to focus on where your relationship is. Your H is the one flaunting it, then it is your H you need to deal with. By law the OW is not responsible for your children. On the other hand, if you need to prove that OW is detrimental to your children, then you have that legal right and need to find out how to do that in your area. <P>Have you read over the basic concepts here at MB? I can give you the thread to read it, one of the guys on the GQII site put together a real nice thread that is full of 'cheat sheets' on MB stuff. Also, if you can setup an appointment with Steve or Jennifer Harley you will find some good guidance and how to plan to protect you and your family. Also they will show you how to help your H. <P>L.

Orchid is right....unless you need this information for legal reasons...proof is not productive. You know that he is with someone else. The details will only hurt you.<P>If you are trying to prove adultery/abandonment for legal reasons, you need to get an attorney and find out what the laws are, and what specific information you may need.<P>In the state of NJ, you only have to prove reasonable motivation and access - so love cards, cell phone records, receipts of money spent without explanation..etc are all considered proof. Unfortunately for me, I must have a stack 2 inches high of "proof". <P>Most of it was unnecessary. It simply caused me a great deal of harm and hurt. I know the obsessed "need to know" can make you crazy - but you won't force your H to stop, and it will only make you cry.<P>So unless you have a legal reason, try to let it go <P>((((((hugs))))))<P>--BR<P>------------------<BR><I>Pain is a given, misery is optional.</I>