I just got back..it was very quick.i didnt even have to get up in front of the judge. since i waive my rights to contest. I just sat in the audience. She said a few words to me. and she seemed very uncomfortable. Her sister was her witness. I got a copy of the decree then left and really didnt say a word to her. Her lawyer handed me the copy and said "well Mr.***** your now a single man as of today"....what a *****.<BR>What is so strange is I cant CRY???<BR>i feel like crap. but cant cry?<P>------------------<BR>Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want.

(((((((BIOMAN)))))))<P>I don't have any words of wisdom for you right now. Just know you are in my thoughts and prayers.<P>Take care of YOU!<P>K

I await the moment you speak of. I have never done this before, so I have no experience to fall back on. The only thing I can suggest is that the shock of it all is so great that your body is still in a protective mode. Maybe when you can let your guard down and become more vulnerable, you will allow your release through tears.<P>My deepest thoughts of comfort go out to you now. I can only imagine your pain and profound disappointment over your loss. I wish I had more for you.<P>Love,<BR>Nell

(((((BioMan)))))<P>That was the fastest divorce I've ever seen on these boards... <P>------------------<BR>~Sheryl<P>And we know. We who have seen. ~Pellegrino

Thanks everyone for you support.<P>Nyneve...well it was fast to me too. but I didnt fight it, we had no kids, and no assets..No fault divorce. I let her have what she wanted.<BR><P>------------------<BR>Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want.

{{{{{{{{{{{{{Bio Man}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}<P>I'm so sorry, sweetie. I wish there was something I could say to ease your pain. Just know that there are people who care about you.<P>Keep posting!

Bioman,<P>I understand all to well, and am sorry.<P>Most people said the same thing to me about how quickly it was done. I too just let him have what he wanted-which was to not be married to me anymore. <P>Take care of yourself {{{{{{{Bioman)))))))<BR>I'll be thinking about you.<BR>Petrie

BioMan,<P>I know how you feel. (Don't you just hate it when people say that?)<P>I found out 2 days after the fact, in a letter from my attorney. I've been divorced for 13 days. For me, it was the same before the divorce as it has been after. I don't feel any different. I don't do different things. I'm the same guy I was.<P>Somehow I figured out that I can be happy in spite of all this. My kids love me. I spend every minute I can with them, and that helps. My 10-year-old daughter tells me that she's glad I'm her dad. How can that not make me feel good?<P>You'll be happy too. I'm sure of it. Someday, you'll find yourself not thinking about the divorce mess and realize that you had a moment of happiness. It'll happen more often, and then you'll realize that you think about happy things more than the sad ones. It's a gradual process, but it'll work. We all heal at different rates and in different ways.<P>Find something to do that you like, and do it. Even if it's just feeding the ducks in the park, or going for a walk.<P>You'll be ok. We all will.<P><BR>--<BR>o2bsane@hotmail.com<BR>

((((((((((BioMan))))))))))))<P>My heart goes out to you today!<P>Take Care.

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{BioMan}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}<P>I'm not sure if I should offer you condolences or congratulations, but at least now it is done. That's a step, anyway, isn't it?<P>I have a thought for you about why you can't cry. When my H left me, I actually carried on quite well for about a week. I was kind of angry, mostly numb, partially lonely, and I had work to do: I had two kids, a mortgage that was 3 months behind, and no job!! So...for about a week, I did what I had to do to "take care of business". Suddenly one night, I started sat down on the couch and cried. Nothing had happened or anything I was just crying--and I cried for 3 days and nights straight. <P>I think it took a while for the shock to wear off. I think it took a while for me to accept it within myself. I think it took a while for reality to sink in. I felt like "automatic" for that first week, and I kept thinking, "I should be upset. My H just left me and I don't feel anything." <P>So, don't be surprised if one day the tears just come. If they do, you know what I would recommend? Go with it. Cry. Cry your heart out and maybe even take the day off to cry. Feel sad--feel it--roll around in it--wallow in it. And then, when you have felt that way for a while, you will start to feel better, as if you have gone through it instead of trying to avoid it. <P>BTW, my thoughts and prayers are with you today. That was SO quick!!<P><BR>CJ<P>------------------<BR>Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.

(((((((BIO))))))))<P>Sorry for the late response, and I'm sorry to hear about the divorce. That happened very very quick, I am very surprised.<P>How are you feeling?<P>Dana<BR>PS I can't cry either at times, I think its a way of our emotions shutting down until we can better deal with things.

Bio Man,<P>I hate to hear your divorce went through. My prayers go out to you. <BR>I am still trying to prevent mine, but I am starting to feel that it is going to happen no matter what I say or do.<P>Take Care, <P>Chase