Please review the Emotion Needs forum under " How To Cope?" for the whole story PLEASE, I'm need of help. Short story<BR>my wife wants a divorce because she tired of marriage and wants to take daughter to her Mom's town. I do not want the divorce and do not want to be a part time Dad. She doesn't care about anything except what suits her. She said that no judge in the country will aware custody to a father, that a mother is better for any child. Please read the EN forum and give me some help Please! I need your help, her mother is pushing her to come back to her town.

"She said that no judge in the country will aware(award) custody to a father, that the mother is better for any child." PURE BS I am the primary custodian of my 4 yo daughter. <P>The fact that she intends to move your daughter away from you indicates that she is not thinking in the best interest of the child. A child needs BOTH parents as much as possible.<P>"Tired of marriage." Is she seeing someone else? OR Is she so immature that she must run home to mommy?<P>Having said that. It will cost you thousands of dollars (literally five figures) to win custody of your daughter. Luckily, my WS XW fought me in words alone.<P>I was; however, ready to spend all of my retirement to get my daughter.<P>Get a great lawyer and decide what you want. It's time to stop being Mr. Niceguy. She is in total selfish mode. There is no way to turn her. Either fight now or keep getting kicked.<P>Having said that, let your lawyer do the fighting. It is imperative that you do not erode any relationship you do have left with your spouse as you BOTH have a child to raise.<P>Kevin<BR>

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by father of 1, husband of 0:<BR><B>"She said that no judge in the country will aware(award) custody to a father, that the mother is better for any child." PURE BS I am the primary custodian of my 4 yo daughter. <P>The fact that she intends to move your daughter away from you indicates that she is not thinking in the best interest of the child. A child needs BOTH parents as much as possible.<P>"Tired of marriage." Is she seeing someone else? OR Is she so immature that she must run home to mommy?<P>Having said that. It will cost you thousands of dollars (literally five figures) to win custody of your daughter. Luckily, my WS XW fought me in words alone.<P>I was; however, ready to spend all of my retirement to get my daughter.<P>Get a great lawyer and decide what you want. It's time to stop being Mr. Niceguy. She is in total selfish mode. There is no way to turn her. Either fight now or keep getting kicked.<P>Having said that, let your lawyer do the fighting. It is imperative that you do not erode any relationship you do have left with your spouse as you BOTH have a child to raise.<P>Kevin</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Thank you , my daughter is 4 also and I will pay whatever it takes to get my daughter. Hope you read my story in the <BR>EN forum, I have been though alot and I need all the help I can get. Thank You again.<BR>

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by TheBlues:<BR><B> Thank you , my daughter is 4 also and I will pay whatever it takes to get my daughter. Hope you read my story in the <BR>EN forum, I have been though alot and I need all the help I can get. Thank You again.</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>

I sujest you dont wait another minute!!!! get to a lawyer fast, and have them file an order to prevent her from leaving the state until things are settled!!!!! I am a mother, and I have primary care of my kids and my ex fough really hard for the wrong reasons he didnt care about them he just wanted to hurt me!!! and I have some male friends who are single father raising there kids so what she said about only mothers haveing custody is so very very wrong, I think she is just telling you that to scare you into thinking you dont stand a chance. BUT like I said she is wrong!!! please I urge you to get a lawyer right away before she does take off and then you will have a hard time getting your daughter back.!!!! GOOD LUCK <BR> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by TheBlues:<BR><B>Please review the Emotion Needs forum under " How To Cope?" for the whole story PLEASE, I'm need of help. Short story<BR>my wife wants a divorce because she tired of marriage and wants to take daughter to her Mom's town. I do not want the divorce and do not want to be a part time Dad. She doesn't care about anything except what suits her. She said that no judge in the country will aware custody to a father, that a mother is better for any child. Please read the EN forum and give me some help Please! I need your help, her mother is pushing her to come back to her town.</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>

Another custodial dad checking in here.<P>Based on the information you posted, I believe it would be hard for you to gain primary custody. However, I am fairly certain that you can prevent her from moving away.<P>My getting custody was based on who was "more closely bound with the children." I was the one who did most of activities of daily living with the kids.<P>I would suggest that you check into the Father's Right to Custody website. They are pretty anti-marriage over there, but have a wealth of information about preventing her from moving with your child. They are at <A HREF="http://www.deltabravo.net/custody" TARGET=_blank>www.deltabravo.net/custody</A> <P>Good Luck to you

Thank you for the words of wisdom,I am at a loss of what to do I feel empty and drained, but I will press on. The deltabravo link is a helpful one, Thanks. I never would have thought I would ever be going though something like this, but here I am. I thought last year was tough with cancer and only 50/50 chance, but I survived my first year and I guess this is another test for me.

Let me get this straight.<P>You have cancer and she wants a divorce. Incredibly weak, isn't she.<P>You have proven you are a strong man. I thought I could endure anything after being betrayed and divorced, but you are a much stronger man than me.<P>

Her moving your D out of state is unlikely!!!<BR>That's how I got my 3 kids (my W left... and was told by every attorney she spoke with... <B>you can't move out of state with the kids</B>!!!<P>If you need to <B>protect</B> yourself legally (and/or financially)... I usually make the recommendation of finding a <B>good</B> attorney. A good place to start off is at the <A HREF="http://lawyers.martindale.com/marhub/form/by.html" TARGET=_blank>Martindale-Hubbell Lawyer Search</A> site. Do a search within your county... look for only "family law" specialists(>80% in divorce/custody/etc.)... make sure they do a lot of "family law committee work"... if they know the judges all the better... You can normally find a few that will give initial counseling free of charge.<BR><A HREF="http://www.uslaw.com" TARGET=_blank>USLaw.com</A> (an alternative search site)<P> <P>Jim

Thank You for the response, the web site is helpful and the atty. listed I have already met with, so that is good to know he isn't another atty. I hope anyway. I know this will be a hard battle but I will take it on. Thank you again.<BR>I did ask her to go to the national cancer survior day with me so my daughter can be there, I'm speaking that day.