I received the rebuttal from my WH in the divorce proceedings and he has the nerve to say that after all I have put up with in him for 19 years, that I don't deserve or need any maintenance. I cannot believe that he can face himself in the mirror or anyone after all the money and gifts and things that my money and my families money has given him. He is really crazy to think that a judge is not gonna grant me some maintenance especially after what he has done. He also disagreed that I could take back my maiden name as it was disrespectable for me since I had two children. What about what a disrespectable thing he did to cause all this. My kids who are teens, even ask if they could change their name too, they are totally embarased by the fathers antics. My WH is not going to have anything and GOd is gonna take him out if he doesn't repent soon, I can't believe him. He sure isn't the man I thought he was. Help, others who have been there!!!!

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by SEF:<BR><B>I received the rebuttal from my WH in the divorce proceedings and he has the nerve to say that after all I have put up with in him for 19 years, that I don't deserve or need any maintenance. I cannot believe that he can face himself in the mirror or anyone after all the money and gifts and things that my money and my families money has given him. He is really crazy to think that a judge is not gonna grant me some maintenance especially after what he has done. He also disagreed that I could take back my maiden name as it was disrespectable for me since I had two children. What about what a disrespectable thing he did to cause all this. My kids who are teens, even ask if they could change their name too, they are totally embarased by the fathers antics. My WH is not going to have anything and GOd is gonna take him out if he doesn't repent soon, I can't believe him. He sure isn't the man I thought he was. Help, others who have been there!!!!</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><BR>I can understand where you are, I had a first husband of a simular nature, who even went as far as saying he did not think our oldest son was his. H also took back all agreements and I was a single parent running 3 kids, working 3 jobs, going to school and one of my children was ill. H did not pay half the medical,dental, did not take them over night for weekands and if he had them for a day, he and his wife bad mouthed me for every good thing I ever tried to do. I cried many times for my boys and I did not recieve any benifits. I had to leave him at Gods feet. When I look back I really don't know how I did it, but I thank God for strength and wisdom and the tremendess growth in myself and my children. If a person knows they press your buttons the keep pressing.I gave opposite reactions and H thought nothing bothered me. ( I thought that was great). He would always say"you are something else".His perception was his reality. Picture leaving him at Gods feet and try to show a reaction diffrent then what he expects. Hang in their, I know it's tuff.<P>Sincerely<P>c<BR>

IMHO, the more they try to argue and put you down, the guiltier they feel! This came from my once repentant WS! He is trying to break you down so that you will feel as crappy as he does. Hold your head high! You have done nothing to be ashamed of! Your WS is trying to project his guilt. Don't take it! As for what you are entitled to, the WS thinks only HE/SHE is entitled. After all, to be a WS must mean you are ENTITLED, right? Let the courts handle it.