I was directed to the <A HREF="http://www.restorem.org" TARGET=_blank>www.restorem.org</A> website through a post that was made here. I would like to read the book by Erin Thiele about how her marriage was restored.<P>I have been divorced over a year and ex may be remarried. Not for sure and not going to ask.<P>Has anyone had any experience with this book? I hope to get some replies here.<P>Thanks!<P>Martha

Hi!<BR>I am very familiar with Erin and ,her husband, Dan's work. I have read Erin's book, her workbook, and also have her videos. I also had the privledge of mmeting Erin and having my book signed by her, when she had a book signing, here in Pensacola, last year. . I read her web site every day for encouragement, and have become a partner in her ministry, as she talks about now, that begins on June 1.<BR>Her whole premise for restoration is based on scripture and obedience to God's word. On her web site, it explains everything in detail.<BR>I have received emails from her when I have had a crisis, and she gives encouragement, hope, and will help you with going back to Scripture for what God says about your situation. Obedience to God's word, is key to victory.<BR>I am also divorced and found Erin's book by total "accident".I constantly refer to her book. Its all about changes to be made in you and putting God first above your husband and your marriage.<BR>There are others here, who also follow Erin's web site. Hopefully, Skye will respond. She has also been a great encourager for me, and has even explained some of Erin's teaching to me.<BR>Hope this helps.

Martha,<P>God led me to the restore web site also. I have read the book and workbook. I have also watch the Be Encouraged videos. God really spoke to me through these things and has changed me a great deal. I send others to this site because <BR>this is were I learned about hope. Hope that can only come from believeing God's promises. I would still be lost and confused if I had not found the restore site. My marriage is not restored but, God has shown me it will be in His time.The hate wall is down between us and God has shown me His power in many ways. My husband left 16 months ago and filed for divorce a year ago. I cried to the Lord asking Him to show me His will and I found the Restore site. I know God sent me because of the hope and faith I found. My pretrail date was in a few days and I posted a pray request to stop the divorce. I decided, after God leading me, not to show up for the pretrail. Praise God my husband didn't either. It doesn't matter what the world tells me, I know God stopped the divorce. I let my lawyer go and I we still are not divorced. As a matter of fact I just recently learned that my husband is mad at his attorney and says, he is going to get a new one. Praise God, he may never get another attorney. He still says he is not coming home but, God has different plans. <P>I hope this helps,<BR>gentle

Thanks for the tip... I'm going to check this out!<P>Cheers!<BR><P>------------------<BR>We cannot do everything at once... but we can do something at once

Thanks to all who have replied here. Before God can bring a miracle to me, I have to rid myself of a whole lot of anger. I'm not sure that I really want him back as he has been gone three years,separated two years and divorced one, and I knew about the affair one year before that. In fact, he has probably given in and married the object of his affections.<P>However, even if I feel that I really don't want him back at this point. I need to get my attitudes changed for sure.<P>I hope that you will keep in contact with me and tell me how it's going.<P>Thanks!<P>Martha

Martha:<BR>Anger is still something I battle. Although it has been almost 4 yrs since my divorce, certain situations can trigger memories and angry feelings can flare up. It is not wrong to feel anger, but its how you deal with it that is important.There are many things to help with those feelings-exercise, television, music, reading,any type of physical or diversional activity. But to me, you have to feel the anger and deal with it and work through it, and not just stuff it down and ignore it--that's just a time bomb ready to go off.<BR> There is also counseling, but I must warn you that Erin is against counseling and explains why in her book and web site. I did go to counseling, but it was not as a couple or for marriage restoration. I went because of the depression and feelings of grief and rejection encountered by being left for OW. I did use a Christian counseling service, called New Life Clinic. They are throughout the US, and the co-founders have written several books, and also have a radio program. I did not know about the Harley's when I started my counseling.<BR>Its very normal to feel conflicted about whether you even want to pursue restoration. If your husband has remarried, and if you are a follower of Erin and her teaching, you must put any restoration plans on hold until that relationship ends, which it probably will, as most statistics say. There is no restoration as long as OP is still in the picture, and even the Harley's agree on that one.<BR>I hope this helps.

I just want to add: If your husband has remarried, while you are waiting for that relationship to end, spend your time reading, and gaining all the knowledge you can, so you will be ready to take back what the OW tried to take from you.<BR>A little insight to give you some hope: My ex moved in with OW 6 weeks after our divorce almost 4 yrs ago. He spoke to me briefly one day, and he told me he is in counseling, and although they got engaged last yr, he has no intention of marrying her the way she is at the present. We are far, far away, from any restoration, but I have been shown that all is not well in paradise!

Well, I can tell one good thing that has come from this. I have some contacts here with you wonderful ladies.<P>Is there any way we can communicate by email or yahoo?<BR>(olyvefour@aol.com)<P>Thanks.

Martha:<BR>Feel free to contact me anytime. I work during the week and usually don't check email till in the evening.<P>gg713@bellsouth.net

Martha,<P>You can email also if you want, tpatter4@aol.com<P>Erin's book also deals with forgiveness. I do believe you would beneifit by reading the book. It will help you to know if you want God to restore your marriage. It really changed me reading God's words applied to the world we live in everyday.<P>There are several people on the prayer request board that read the Restore Marriage books. You will find lots of encouragement there. <P>gentle<BR>