Please Read Org.Post 5/24&25, Wife mother has hired atty. for her. What should I expect next? W doesn't want to work on marriage & I do not want the divorce. In Md. you have to be separated for at least a year before divorce. I think I have her convinced that she cann't move my dgth. out of state. I know she feels something for me, but will not admit it. Our anniversary in March she signed my card w/ I love you as always before (please review my earlier posts). I know she feels now that she has to follow though since her mother is pushing her forward. I'm not sure what to expect, she has no grounds for divorce, she saids that she just wants out and a new start. I have always talked about family values with my dgth. and that family stays & grows together. My W wants me to move out and she stays in the house, this will make me look like the bad guy in my dght eyes and I'm not the one who is wanting this divorce. My W feels that a divorce is normal ( her mom is on her 5th H ) I do not want my dght growing up in that kind of life style as my W did. Any suggestion what to expect and will I ahve to move out, we do not have a hostile enviroment its just none or very little communication. My dght always tells us to hug or kiss mommy or mommy kiss daddy, its sad tht my W doesn't want to make a go of life as a family. I need your comments.<BR>If you haven't read my eariler post give it a shot Please.

For starters, expect that your wife will claim grounds of “cruel and inhumane treatment with no reasonable expectation of reconciliation.” You will be named “defendant” and you will be presumed guilty. This accusation is vague enough that it’s difficult to defend against, but don’t count on having an opportunity to defend yourself any way. The courts are well aware that the no-fault laws will allow your wife to get a divorce eventually, whether you want it or not, and they would rather just get the whole thing over with. If they allow you to fight about grounds and win, then they’ll have to go through the whole divorce process all over again when the no-fault grounds kick in. The lawyers may be happy about this prospect, but the judges have an unending backlog of cases to get through, and they feel the pressure.<P>By the time your case gets going, you can probably expect your wife to <I>believe</I> the accusations she makes against you. You don’t want to give your wife what she wants, and the legal process fosters hostility. Further, if your wife has any buried feelings of guilt over her actions, these are likely to come out as hostility against you.<P>I wish I had something encouraging to say, but…welcome to hell, man!<BR>

Thanks for your comments, I haven't thought of her using that for grounds which their is no cruel and inhumane on my part, she is the one who is blocking evrything out and saids she does say thing to hurt me because I'm not being reasonable and working with her on this. I will continue to fight for custody til the end. Thanks

Hi there, <P>Do NOT move out of your marital home without consulting your atty first. This could impact your case both financially and with regards to custody of your daughter.<P>You do have an atty right? I think I remember you saying that you did. If you don't, please get one ASAP. <P>--BR<P>------------------<BR><I>Pain is a given, misery is optional.</I>