It has been a while since my last post. I let my ex come back home in December. OUr divorce was final in November 1998. Things were really good for a while. Now i feel as though he being really secretative about things. Locks his cell phone so that i cannot use it, but I have found out in various ways that he has been calling a woman that he met on the internet. When i ask him if he is calling her he says "no". I want to believe him. But since he came home i have found out and he has admitted to it, that he had been calling, seeing and giving a woman that he was seeing while we were separted money. He says that he does not talk to her anymore. I really dont know what to believe anymore. I want to believe him and trust him. We were married for 10 years and have 2 girls ( 9 and 3 ) Now he is saying that he just does not know if he can be happy with me or not. This has only started in the past few weeks. I really need some advice on what i should do. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.<P>Angel<P>------------------<BR>

Angel,<P>It sounds like he's started the affair up again, by his actions. I don't really have much advice for you: you need to decide how much of this behavior you can take. His status as a "repeat" offender will make it harder and harder for you to let him back in to his life.<P>If I were you, I guess that I'd have a discussion with him about how you feel, and bring up the need for him to resort to "extreme measures" to protect you. That means no cell phone, no email, no internet, doing counseling. Duct tape and shackles in the basement sounds like a reasonable solution at this point.<P>I would probably ask him to leave until he can comply with the terms. I'm sorry that this is happening. God bless.