Believe it or not My XH and I had an amicable divorce and in fact get along better now than before. I knew we would both move on and I knew that he would eventually become serious again with someone so I don't really have a problem with his personal relationship. I guess it just didn't occur to me how my children would fit into the picture and I have just discovered that I am extremely jealous of the friendship that has developed between XH's girlfriend and my children. How do I deal with this? <P>My four year old came home using the expression "pretty please." I realize nothing is wrong with this, it's just that none of us have ever used it. We always just said please without the pretty. She has picked it up from the girlfriend and this really bothers me. I know this probably sounds silly, but how do I keep from becoming jealous every time a sign of another woman's influence shows up with my kids?

Hi,<P>I can relate, I was very jealous of exH's girlfriend/fiancee/original OW. It is hard to have my girls come back with their nails painted by her. But you get used to it, you have no choice I guess.<P>On another note, I am dating a guy who's exW I know is not happy with me. They have 2 boys. Both seem to be taking to me quite well. I don't go out of my way for their attention, I let them come to me. I love their father very much and its hard not to adore these little miniature cuties. I would never do anything to hurt them, or my bf. I always treat them with kindness and care, and in time, I can grow to love them.<P>I don't believe in using the kids in any way, but she has used them a few times to try to get between us. We are going away, he and his 2 boys , and me, for 8 days later this month. SHe is not happy either. <P>But he has moved on, and I had nothing to do with their divorce. I don't care for her, simply out of who she is, but you know what, I get along with OW, so I'll surely get along with her when the time comes WAY down the road. <P>It's hard to let another woman around your kids, but like I said, its best to try to deal with it, rather than fight it.<P>Are you seeing anyone? How does he feel about how your child gets along with your bf??<P>Good luck, Dana

Thanks DanaB<P>I realize that I have to accept it if my children develop affection for the gf, I guess I should just be grateful that she's nice to them and in fact usually come home cleaner and fed when she's there, so I shouldn't complain. Just can't help if the jealous streak pops up now and then.<P>I don't have a bf at this time, if anything I'm pretty fed up with men for the moment.