FFF and Rivera, and everyone else.....just remembered the last 2 that posted,<P>I am a women and my sex drive is intense! Not like an addictive personality, but making love is my priority......or one of the top in life. I think that is BS about women having less sex drive than men.........in that respect, I feel we are all created equal. In my life, I could say the same about males.......but I know better.........Unfortunaterly, I learned the last year or so that emotional problems from the past can and will stifle sexual growth.<P>Sexual abuse is and does screw (excuse the pun), up any type of intimacy........I am living with the fallout now with my husband. It is not his fault. I would love to start a thread, or a chat or whatever with survivors and especially their mates.....sort of a group therapy sort of scenerio...........I am living with a man that was (probably) sexually abused......he is starting to deal with himself after 20 something years of repression..or more......the result is total SHUT DOWN!!!<BR>anyway, as a spouse who is trying to hang in there....(a very sexual spouse), I would be willing to vent about this to anyone who is finding herself/himself in this position.....<BR>I am serious about this, if you are too, email me @ bon369aol.com......maybe we can share feelings and ideas....<BR>Bonnie