HI, <P>Just read your reply to hopelessmom on June 10.<P>I have read all the books I can find on infidelity.<P>I have read the statistics you mention.<P>I am not sure of your situation. I am on roll call.<P>My ws is in 1+ yr affair with alcoholic; he is a functional alcoholic.<BR>He recently filed 3x for d. and hearing is June 15. <P>In book I read by Homer Mcdonald, he HIGHLY SUGGESTS NOT TO FIGHT THE LEGAL PAPER DIVORCE TO MINIMIZE EMOTIONAL DIVORCE TAHT COULD INCREASE CHANCES OF RECONCILIATION.<P>I kept holding onto to hope that affair would end before a final divorce--but I have no hope now, Angel.<P>I have to go for now. Do you have e-mail address so we can talk more than on this forum?<P>elo