I have posted many times, hopefully everyone can read my previous posts.<P>My wife and I have been separated for 7 months. I tried everything to win her back and it seemed the harder I tried the farther away she went. We are now on going on nearly 1 month of not seeing each other.<P>I happened to run into her at the house the otherday and she treated me very poorly. She pretty much ignored me. I am proud of myself. I didn't blubber or really try and talk to her. I asked her how she has been and told her she looked nice and asked her if there was anything we needed to discuss. She said no and so I told her I was leaving and left. I have been doing much better, since I have moved out of the house. I feel like I have been able to gain back some of my self respect and self conifidence in myself.<BR>Anyway, I feel like I have been in plan A forever and I feel like I am ready for plan b. I read your letters, but they don't apply to me, in a sense. I only have suspicions that she might be having an affair, I don't have any proof. How do I go about writing this letter with suspicions? Or when my feelings are hurt because she is not responding nor is she treating me with any kind of respect? Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thanks Chase.

Chase,<P>I am a firm believer that "infidelity" <B>isn't</B> the only reason to Plan A or Plan B.<P>Is it possible to lose so much love in our Love Bank?...<BR>...without their being an affair?... YES!<P>Is the withdrawal of the WS... be the result of some other "attitude"?... YES!<P>In any case... if your Love Bank balance is sooooo low...<BR>...you <B>should</B> tell your WS so!<P>Does that mean "no contact"... yes!<BR>On what condition? (if there is no OM)?... <BR>...whatever <B>you deem</B> would bring her out of her current condition...<BR>...maybe counseling, medication, recommitment to faith, or some combination of all of these.<P>Her abandoment of your marriage is no less painful to you because you can't identify an OM...<BR>...and so... do tell her.<P>The outline of all Plan B letters, posted by a few these past weeks would be good to follow.<P> <P>Jim